A woman has been left completely floored after discovering her married best friend is having an affair behind her husband’s back – with the woman’s ex-boyfriend and ‘first love’
How would you feel if you found out your best friend was sleeping with your ex?
It’s often an unspoken rule amongst friends that you don’t get involved with your mate’s former partner. But one woman has been left gobsmacked after discovering that not only has her best friend been sleeping with the ex-boyfriend that she would describe as her “first love” – she’s also been doing it while married to someone else.
The woman said she doesn’t have any “lingering feelings” for her ex – who is also now married to someone else – but does feel as though her friend “crossed a boundary” by starting an affair with him. She also insisted she feels bad for both of their spouses for the “deceit” both parties are committing.
In a post on Mumsnet, she said: “I found out very recently from a third party that my friend is having an affair with my ex. I don’t have any lingering feelings for him, just fond memories of a first love. However, this does not sit comfortably [with me] due to the deceit toward his wife, and [I] also feel she’s crossed a boundary [by] getting with a friend’s ex.
“She hadn’t confided this in me at all, [and] were the affair not with my ex, I know she would have. My advice would have been to not get involved. If his wife finds out she will be devastated. My friend is confident he’s leaving his wife, although he hasn’t as yet.”
The woman confirmed in later posts that she had been in a relationship with her ex for seven years and had lived with him before they split, but their relationship came to an end 23 years ago, so it was not a recent breakup. Still, she feels uncomfortable with the idea of her best friend sleeping with him behind her back, as she said it’s “like sleeping with someone your sister had been with”.
Commenters on the post seemed to agree that the woman’s friend was in the wrong, as many said that she is “risking a lot of pain” to both her own husband and her lover’s wife. One person said: “Wow. No morals or loyalty,” while another wrote: “I think it matters less that the guy is your ex and more about the fact she’s risking a lot of pain to his wife and her husband. Good people can do bad things but if it is true, I’d be keeping my distance from her in your shoes.”
And a third also posted: “Whether it matters to you or not, she crossed an unnecessary line; she could have hurt you and didn’t care. The cheating is troubling too.”
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