While most of us would encourage our partner’s hobbies, one man has revealed how his girlfriend’s love of dressing up is driving a wedge in their relationship as he finds what she wears embarrassing
It’s so important to have interests and hobbies, something that connects you to friends, loved ones, or just that you can enjoy on your own. However, one bemused boyfriend has revealed that his girlfriend’s penchant for dressing up has left him reconsidering their relationship.
Taking to social media to share his issue, he explained that the couple had been together for five months but her “princess syndrome” was causing him problems. He wrote: “We get along really well. When I say princess syndrome, I don’t mean that she is spoiled or entitled, because she isn’t. Her clothes seem to take over her life.
“She dresses like a sort of fairytale princess on a daily basis, excluding at work. Long, frilly skirts, lacey blouses, things like that. It works for her because she is very pretty and can pull it off. At first, I found it to be very endearing, but then I became aware of how much time she spends on her outfits.
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“She runs a blog that has a sizeable amount of followers, and she is constantly posting outfit pictures, links to clothing items, and whatnot. She spends a few hours a day on her blog, at least. Then she spends time sewing items for new outfits or for her Etsy store.
“When we go out, we get a lot of stares at what she’s wearing. I’ve also caught people sneaking pictures of her on their cell phones. This attention makes me uncomfortable. I have asked her to tone it down a bit, but she took that to mean not wearing anything in her hair when we’re out together.”
The man insisted that he does love her just the way she is but he can’t wrap his head around the dressing up. He continued: “I had hoped when she started her new job in the career of her choice that she would become more serious, but her new boss and co-workers encourage her. I worry that people won’t take her seriously, or miss how kind and intelligent she is. How can I talk to her about dressing more appropriately without hurting her feelings?”
People reading the Reddit post were confused by the boyfriend’s contradicting statements and urged him to think carefully about what he considers important. One person replied: “Sounds like you have to get over your insecurities. This is her hobby, her interest, and she’s getting positive reactions. You shouldn’t be trying to change her, especially when it was something that initially drew you to her.”
And someone else commented: “She’s not dressing for you. She’s dressing how she wants to. You sound like my ex who berated me for wearing makeup but tried to make it a compliment by saying I was naturally pretty. He made me feel like it was somehow wrong that I found myself prettier with makeup on. Don’t do that to your girlfriend.”
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