A man has turned to Reddit to ask if he’s in the right to no longer be attracted to his wife now she has smaller breasts and if a divorce is now the only option
A man has come under fire for revealing that his wife’s decision to get a breast reduction has him wanting to file for a divorce. In his post on Reddit, the 30-year-old begins: “M wife, 29, and I have been together for six years married for two.
“I have a type, and based on my past relationships and the women I’m attracted to, it’s not subtle. I like curvy women. And my wife happens to fit this type to a tee.” He then adds how thinner and less curvy women are not attractive to him, stating “attraction is a big part of a relationship”.
He then opens up on his dilemma as he reveals his curvy wife has been keen to undergo a breast reduction surgery to reduce the size of her chest as “she felt like they didn’t fit her frame and that they caused her to receive unwanted attention”. She has described that having bigger breasts doesn’t cause her any pain but instead appears to be uncomfortable with them being bigger and getting attention.
He then continues: “Fast forward five years and we have been married for a year at this point. Out of nowhere she said that she had an appointment with a doctor to talk about a reduction. I was kind of surprised because I figured that at the very least she would mention it to me.”
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Whilst he understands he can’t tell his wife what to do with her body, he then adds: “Eventually she opened up and told me that she was playing this close to her chest (no pun intended) because she knew that I would try and talk her out of it. I told her that I’m her husband and that I wouldn’t try and talk her out of it but I did want to make clear that, for the lack of a better phrase, actions have consequences. She said that she understood that, but her chest makes her feel too self conscious and she wants to go through with it. I told her that I understood and would stand by her.”
After his wife goes ahead with the elective surgery and reduces her chest size down to a B cup, the husband is then faced with an issue as he realises he is no longer attracted to his wife. He writes, “We have been intimate a few times over the few weeks after she felt like everything was good and it’s been a struggle. The size is really messing with me, but not only that, the scars are brutal. I have a thing about scars that just give me the ick.” After revealing in his post that he’s tried different sexual positions where he doesn’t have to face his wife or her new breasts, he then admits that his wife got upset as she doesn’t feel like he’s attracted to her.
He then adds: “I tried to brush it off by saying that I was stressed and tired (lying felt kinder than saying that her flat chest makes her look like a child and the scars make me want to dry heave) but she wasn’t having it. I sat her down and reminded her that her actions would have consequences. She blew up at me, calling me shallow and telling me that “this wouldn’t matter to a real man.” She asked if I still loved her, I said that I did, but that doesn’t mean that meant that I was obligated to sleep with her, and if the roles were reversed she would say that this dynamic is borderline abusive.”
Since the conversation, he explains that the atmosphere at home has been “icy at best” as he reveals he’s tried to get close to her but doesn’t want to have sex, which has not gone down well. He rounds off his post as he explains he thinks it’s the end of the road for their marriage and writes: “At this point I don’t know where else to go from here. I feel like she won’t forgive me, and to be honest this whole thing has caused some resentment towards her so I feel that divorce is our only option at this point.”
In response, Reddit users have hit back at the original post. One person replied: “If her boobs are all that matter to you, go off king. You don’t get to set the justification for why she did it. “I’d understand if she had back pain” Sure you would.”
Another person wrote: “I do not say this lightly. This guy is scum. I feel repulsed reading his first ‘am I the a***hole’ to now. This poor woman. Wow. What a garbage husband. I got a breast reduction. Sure it was a lot for my husband to get used to but he respected me enough to support me and love me regardless of my breasts. I feel like a whole new person after my reduction! I’m so much more comfortable in my body. Too bad op ruined that for his wife. This is so brutal! I hope she finds someone who loves her for her!”
“It’s her body, and the fact you feel entitled to control it is very telling.,” said a third. “Attraction often takes effort – I guarantee there are things about you she doesn’t love, it’s the full package that matters. If this is how you feel, get a divorce and let her find someone more worthy.” A fourth posted: “Came to see how many people here are telling you to get f***** and I am not disappointed.”
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