A woman has caused a huge row with her lifelong best friend by choosing to miss her best friend’s wedding to go to the Taylor Swift Eras concert instead. But Reddit users agree she’s in the right.
One of the highlights of any friendship is celebrating life milestones together. Be it graduation, getting engaged and of course getting married. The person you want by your side the most to help you make happy memories is your best friend.
But is it OK to miss your best friend’s wedding if it happens to coincide with the days you have booked to take a trip to see a concert you’ve been excited to go to for more than a year? A woman who lives in Albania has taken to Reddit to ask if she is an a**h*** for choosing to miss her best friend’s wedding to go to a Taylor Swift concert instead.
A 26-year-old woman has described her falling out with her best friend Jessy, 26, because she had highly coveted Taylor Swift concert dates locked in months before her best friend bulldozed her plans with her Albanian wedding ones. She started explaining the situation where her expensive concert ticket plans were booked and made known way before the wedding plans were set.
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She said: “The issue is that on July 13th my fiancé and I have booked tickets for the Eras tour in Milan almost 1 year in advance or else they’d sell out. We also had to book hotels, flights etc because we’ll stay there for 4 days. Jessy knew that I’d booked tickets on that date. She hadn’t booked her wedding yet.”
The issue arose when Jessy, the bride-to-be, disclosed her wedding date. “When she told me the date I told her she can’t be serious,” she said. “She was like why? I reminded her I had the concert and the trip on those dates. And she told me ok? Then cancel it obviously?”
This was a little too much to ask, considering she had those plans for nearly a year before the wedding dates were announced. She said: “I told her sorry I can’t. I can’t cancel the hotel, plane tickets and concert tickets. I’ll have to pay a high fee to cancel all that and I don’t think I can even cancel the concert tickets.”
The bride saw red at this news, despite reminding Jessy of her prior knowledge of the conflicting dates, the woman was accused of selfishness and indifference towards Jessy’s special day. She said: “She accused me of being a total a**h***, basically for putting a trip and a concert over her wedding. She won’t speak to me now unless I send her proof that I’m cancelling everything to attend her wedding.”
The woman tried to defend her decision by reminding her best friend that the concert was something she had planned a year in advance and that Jessy knew that her friend would be away in Italy for those dates. Jessy became unreasonable, and again kept to her firm stance, she said: “She straight up told me that yes she knew but she didn’t care because as a friend she’d expect me to do the right thing and drop everything for her wedding.”
The woman stuck to her guns and said: “I told her I’m not cancelling my plans for something you knew a year in advance I’d do.” However, took to Reddit to ask if she was in the right about missing her best friend’s wedding for a concert.
All the commentators sided with the woman and agreed the bride had bulldozed her concert plans. One wrote: “It’s 100% sabotaging a “friend’s” plans. [You] should choose the concert and drop the “friend” moving forward.”
Another agreed: “The friend is deliberately trying to stop [you] from enjoying [your] big event. I’ve saved 10 years to take my family on a cruise to New York and nothing will prevent me going. If I die my son is taking his ouija board!”
Another joked: “It’s still probably going to affect her enjoyment of the concert, what her ex-friend did. Fortunately, TayTay has some songs for that.”
