A woman told Reddit that she treats her daughter and stepdaughter differently – and most people on the site agreed that she was doing the right thing when they read her story
A woman confessed to treating her biological daughter and stepdaughter differently – and asked for opinions on the matter.
The mum sought advice on Reddit’s popular AITA forum, questioning if her actions were fair. And it appears the majority of commenters supported her stance.
Delving into her personal life on the forum, the mum wrote: “I am 38F married to my husband 42M. Back when I was 16 I gave birth to my daughter, Mary, dad deadbeat but we’re fine now anyways. I started business in my early 20s and now I’m considerably wealthy.
“My husband has a daughter, Jane, who’s only one year older than Mary. We got married two years ago… I’m objectively wealthier than my husband. He’s not poor, I just make more money and finances have never been a main topic to us both thankfully.
“Now Mary works in a certain institution and makes her own money and pays her own bills. But I also like to spoil her with money and luxury. We travel a lot together, sometimes I give her money to travel alone.
“Everything was fine until Jane called me saying she wants me to give her £2,000 for her and her friends to travel for a little vacation. I told her £2,000 for a vacation is a lot, I can help her with some.
“But she then brought up everything I get and pay for Mary and never her. I told her because Mary has no one but me, as my husband doesn’t contribute anything to Mary, so obviously I’ll direct my efforts to her. She also works and doesn’t just depend on me… let’s just say that phone call wasn’t the nicest.”
She concluded: “I know the whole perception of if you marry someone with kids then they’re your kids too, but Jane is not a kid. She was 21 when I got married to her father. So that’s why it was never logical for me to become her mother just like she never tried to become my daughter.
“This family started with all adults and I never try to separate Jane and her father nor get between them. Not that I have a problem with giving Jane money in general, it was her entitlement in demanding the money.”
Most people agreed that the woman was not the a**hole in the situation and that Jane was being spoilt. One person wrote: “NTA (Not the a**hole). Jane is too old to behave this way. She must have never heard the expression ‘Don’t count someone else’s money’.
Another chimed in: “NTA entitlement is strong with her.” A third agreed, saying: “NTA and she was cheeky telling you to give her £2,000. Like WTF. She isn’t your daughter. You didn’t raise her. She doesn’t get access to your money just because you married her dad.”
Commenters also suggested that the stepdaughter should have approached her father to ask for the cash, with many stating that it’s high time he had a serious conversation with her.
One commenter advised: “The dad should have a talk with his daughter about what’s ok or not, leaving OP out of this. I can maybe understand the initial ask, but once OP explained her limits the daughter should have quickly been grateful for that.”
