A grieving father is facing backlash from his ex-wife after he revealed he wanted to spend their late son’s university fund on a luxury holiday, instead of giving it to help his stepbrother
A man has opened up about his son’s death and how he wants to take the money he’d put aside for his college fund and spend it on a holiday. However, his ex-wife thinks it should go to their late son’s stepbrother instead.
Wanting to know if he is in the wrong for paying for a luxury trip to Europe to help his grieving process instead of helping a young child’s education, he shared the issue on social media. He wrote: “My son was smart. Smarter than me. I almost requested a paternity test because he was so damn intelligent. My ex and I divorced when he was about 12. She remarried when he was 14. I did when he was 16.
“I had a Registered Education Savings Plan (RESP) set up for him, which is an education fund in Canada. As long as he went for post-secondary education he could use the money for anything.
“I always told him that I was okay with him not going to university. That way I could use the money I had saved up for him to go to Belgium and buy some beer from monks that only allow you to buy one case. He knew I was joking and he always played along. He wouldn’t let me get his goat.”
The dad revealed that when his son was accepted to McGill University in Montreal to study microbiology and immunology it was “the proudest moment” of his life. He added: “I took him out for a beer to celebrate his achievement and mourn the loss of my trip to Europe.”
Opening up about the tragedy of losing his only child, the dad went on: “My son was struck and killed by a drunk driver in March. I’m dealing with it. My ex is dealing with it. My wife has been nothing but my rock in this. She is holding me up.
“I was dealing with the funeral arrangements and everything when my ex came to talk to me about his money. She knew he had a scholarship and was just going to use the money for living expenses and an emergency fund. She asked me what I was going to do with it.
“I said I was going to do what I always said I would. I was going to Europe to drink beer. She asked if she could have it for her stepson. I thought about it and said no. Her husband is a decent enough person but he made it clear that he wasn’t responsible for any expenses for my son. Beyond food and shelter and stuff obviously. Like I said he is decent.
“I said I was not going to do that. I was going to go drink beer in my son’s honor. She says I’m wasting thousands of dollars. And I guess I am. I have to give back the government portion of the fund. But I don’t care. My ex thinks I’m being stupid and irresponsible wasting my son’s money like this. I don’t care. My son would laugh his a** off if he knew I actually did it.”
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People reading the heartbreaking Reddit post were devastated by the father’s loss and rushed to assure him he wasn’t in the wrong. One person wrote: “You’re not the a******. Sorry for your loss. I thought it was a clickbait title but this is a sad f****** post. I hope you enjoy your trip and pour out some for your homie. It sounds like you guys had a good relationship.”
Sharing a little bit more about his son and his chosen path of study, he added: “He was thrown for a loop by the pandemic and he wanted to make sure it didn’t happen again. He talked about a lot of stuff that went over my head. I’m a baker. I understand yeast. He loved the Montreal Canadiens. I would get us tickets at least once a year. He loved kayaking with me. We are so close to so much water. He was a great kid. He was shaping up to be a great man.”
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