A mum-to-be was devastated by her own mum’s reaction to her gender reveal, as she was ‘visibly disappointed’ by the news – and it’s put a dampener on her pregnancy
Gender reveals are a big part of the pregnancy journey for some mums.
Choosing to find out the gender of your baby before they’re born can allow you to start planning things like what name you’ll give your little one and what clothes you need to buy them. It also gives you an excuse to throw a gender reveal party where your family and friends can share in your excitement over your impending arrival.
But one mum-to-be has been left devastated after she told her family she was expecting a baby boy, as her own mum was “visibly disappointed” – and has been telling her it’s a “shame” that she isn’t having a girl.
In a post on Mumsnet, the woman said her mum has also been telling other people how “strange it feels” that she’ll be a grandma to a boy instead of a girl. She added that her mum’s actions have “taken the shine off” of her pregnancy.
She wrote: “Just found out we’re having a boy and we’re very excited so told my mum and she was visibly disappointed. [She was] saying ‘I imagined you to have a daughter’, she then went on to say there’s something very special about having a daughter and a mum/daughter bond, and ‘maybe you’ll get one next time’.
“She now keeps saying every time the baby is mentioned how strange it feels that I’m having a boy and that she keeps picturing a girl.”
To make matters worse, the woman’s mum also keeps looking at dresses in shops and “dragging herself away” as she reminds herself that her grandchild won’t be a girl.
The mum-to-be continued: “The last straw is how she keeps looking at all the lovely dresses in the shops and has to drag herself away reminding herself it’s a boy. She’s really taken the shine off this pregnancy and I’m starting to feel really angry and avoid the subject.
“I have told her I’m excited to be having a boy, I’m wondering if she’s trying to relive having me through my baby or why is she finding it so strange that my baby is a little boy.”
Commenters on the post were “furious” on the woman’s behalf. Many of them told her to be honest with her mum about how she feels, and if she doesn’t stop, to “distance” herself.
One person wrote: “I’d be furious and incredibly hurt, in equal measure. Her behaviour is completely unacceptable and I would tell her so. I would tell her she’s doing a fine job of ruining what should be the happiest time of your life. I would then distance myself for the foreseeable.”
Another added: “The irony of discussing mother/daughter relationships whilst simultaneously destroying her relationship with her daughter.”
And a third wrote: “This is a classic example of parents projecting through their children and maybe she is nostalgic and thought she’d have another little you to relive those days but she’s also being super rude and inconsiderate.”
Do you have a story to sell? Get in touch with us at [email protected].
