What would you do if your family hated your partner? One man claimed he’s completely clueless on what to do next, as his relatives and partner always lock horns
A ’34-year-old’s’ girlfriend is always at loggerheads with his family – and now he’s torn between them.
Getting along with older relatives can be a tricky feat. Perhaps they’re prone to voicing dubious views at the Christmas party, or like to ask about your ‘biological clock’ a bit more than they should.
But one man claimed he’s now completely clueless on what to do next, as his relatives and partner lock horns time and time again. This all came to a head just yesterday, with the man taking anonymously to Reddit in the hopes of getting some advice.
“My family and my girlfriend don’t like each other and have had words before,” the self-proclaimed 34-year-old said. “I moved interstate with her and [we] have been living together six months, I last saw my family for three days for my sick grandma’s birthday.
“Three months on, [and] that grandmother took a turn… my dad asked me to come see her to say goodbye and it would mean a lot to him, [but] my girlfriend protested.” Although the Redditor claimed he wasn’t too close with his gran, he wanted to go and support his dad.
However, this visit seemingly didn’t happen in time, and now his grandma has sadly passed away. He continued: “I fought with my girlfriend. [I keep saying] that I should just go to the funeral… [but] my girlfriend tells me I am always throwing her away for my family.
“I didn’t take jobs or pursue my university course so I could live with her. I’ve missed birthdays and events because my family want to see me but don’t want her there.” While the writer also stressed that he can understand why it hurts to feel unincluded, his girlfriend then appeared to take this too far.
“She tells me I scheme behind her back with my mother to try and destroy her,” he continued. “[This is] when my mother is telling me what is happening with my family and gives her thoughts on what I should do.
“My girlfriend then says I never show her my messages; I only ever look at her messages when she’s driving and I don’t like doing that. Am I being inconsiderate and rude? Is my family out of line? Is my gf being too controlling?”
Unsurprisingly, the controversial post soon garnered countless comments, with many users branding his girlfriend ‘toxic’ and ‘controlling’. One person wrote: “Girlfriend Sounds toxic as f***…. Appears to be attempting to alienate you from your family emotionally as she’s already done it physically.”
Another added: “So just to recap, your girlfriend: objected to you saying goodbye to your grandma as she’s dying, didn’t want you to support your dad through his mom’s death, won’t let you talk to your mom, has made you give up significant economic prospects, wants to read all the messages on your phone. She is controlling and abusive and I’m very, very worried about you.
“She’s trying to isolate and alienate you from outside support networks so that she can control you more and more thoroughly, and in the process you’re also reducing your financial independence.”
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