A mum-to-be has fumed at her husband for ‘policing’ the food she eats while she’s pregnant, as she said she’s already under stress and doesn’t need to be shamed for her cravings
We can all appreciate how difficult pregnancies are on the body, and most of us know it’s not uncommon for women to start craving certain foods.
Cravings can range from weird food combos like gherkins and jam to simply wanting to gorge on junk food. And one mum-to-be has said her husband has been criticising her cravings and trying to “police” what she eats.
The woman shared in a post on Reddit that her husband has always been “fanatical about his health”, while she is “far less rigid” about what she eats in a day. Now that she’s pregnant, she’s even less strict with her diet and has been indulging in her cravings – including the occasional cheeky McDonald’s for lunch.
But after her husband found out about her snacking habits, he criticised her for not eating healthily for the sake of their child. She wrote: “I’m 20 weeks pregnant – everything has gone smoothly so far. All our scans and tests have come back fine. I have gained the exact amount of weight recommended by my doctor.
“My husband is fanatical about his health, and on a strict schedule of prepped healthy meals and workouts. Before this pregnancy and now, I am far less rigid about what I eat. I’ve never been over or underweight, I take vitamins, eat a lot of fruits and vegetables, and am active … however, compared to him I indulge in sweet or fried snacks way more, and my diet is far more erratic.
“He criticised how I eat before I got pregnant, and it’s getting worse with pregnancy. The other day he found a receipt of McDonald’s fries in my car, and sent me this text while at work: ‘I really wish you’d take my wishes into consideration more when it comes to what you feed [future baby name] and with McDonald’s fries for lunch after a muffin for breakfast it doesn’t really feel like that is happening.'”
The mum-to-be said she doesn’t want her husband to “police” her food choices, especially not during her pregnancy when she’s “already dealing with so many changes in my body and mood fluctuations”.
She added: “If I were majorly over or underweight I would understand. Sure, I could eat healthier, but the way he eats is not something I aspire to. I also grew up around family members with destructive eating disorders, and I don’t want pushy attitudes about food around me or our future daughter.”
Commenters on the post urged the woman to have a conversation with her husband about his behaviour. Many agreed that her husband has no right to police what she eats, and others said talking to him about his behaviour could stop it before it goes too far.
One person said: “I think you already know the answer and are just looking for validation. Your husband has no business policing what you eat.”
Another added: “I think she needs to have a discussion with him NOW, possibly with a marriage counsellor on how they are going to feed this kid and talk about food in front of the kid before he gives the kid an eating disorder.”
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