Planning a wedding is no easy feat and one woman has been left tearing her hair out over plus ones. But a friend went behind her back to try and sneak his partner of three months into the big day
A bride has put her foot down after being pressured by her friend to let him bring a plus one to her wedding – but she doesn’t want to “experience this day with a stranger”.
Deciding a wedding guest list is never easy as it can often cause riot between friends and family members. But with a capacity limit at the majority of wedding venues, some tough decisions have to be made whether people like it or not. Opinions are often divided when thinking about plus ones – do or don’t you invite them? Some believe it is polite to invite a person’s other half, but others don’t want to invite partners unless they know them well.
One woman has been left torn for issuing a firm no to wedding guests who want to bring someone with them. She wants to make it very clear that only those listed on the invitations were welcome. In a recent rant on Reddit, the bride, who wishes to remain unnamed, pointed out it would cost her a lot more money to add plus ones.
“I really don’t feel like I should feel pressured to invite somebody I barely know,” she said.
The bride said her wedding guest list is already at 200 people and the venue she and her husband-to-be choose is “very limited on how many more people we can invite”.
She explained: “My wedding is next fall and I have a few friends who wanted plus ones. I made a guidelines on who gets a plus one and me and soon-to-be husband decided on we would only allow plus one to people who have been together for at least a year. I’ve had a few friends tell me they want to plus one and I’ve had to tell them no.”
But one of the couple’s friends who she referred to as ‘T’ reportedly asked the bride “five times” if his partner ‘S’ can come to the wedding, after dating her for three months. And when she said no, he sneakily tried to ask the wedding party for permission.
“S is very loud and tends to get very very drunk,” said the bride. “She really doesn’t talk to me or interact with me even at parties or social gatherings.” After speaking with ‘T’ about his partner not being able to come, the bride added: “Even after telling him no he has also asked the wedding party to try to convince me to let her come. In my eyes it wouldn’t be fair to everyone else I said no to as well.
“Weddings are stressful enough and I really don’t feel like I should be pressured to invite somebody. I barely know.”
She continued: “The reason for the no plus ones is because me and my soon to be husband want to make this an experience for the people we love in our lives we rather have the time of our life’s with people we have known for years and experience this day with them instead of a stranger.”
The woman asked Reddit users to help her and if she is being an a****e for her decision to be strict about plus ones. A number of people commented and one person said: “It’s your wedding, so you can invite who you want. They also are fine to ask but need to accept your answer.”
Another added: “Your wedding, your choice. You don’t want S to come, so you have no obligation to invite her. Simple as that.” A third commented: “It’s your wedding, you can invite who you want. That’s a good rule, my girlfriend and I plan to have the same rule at our wedding one day, no reason you should pay be to have people you barely know come see you get married if you don’t want them to.”
But another pointed out while the woman’s choice is understandable, she may have to accept the reactions. They said: “You are not the a****e for not inviting them, but realise there may be consequences to your relationship with your friend should you do that, especially if most of the people there get a plus one and your friend doesn’t. So if you can deal with the fallout, do what you like.”
Another individual brutally disagreed with the bride and said: “Cheap and tacky. Many will simply not come.”
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