A woman knew that she was being ‘shallow’ by second-guessing whether she was into a man because he was only a tiny bit taller than her at 5ft 2in – and she caused a fierce debate
When you’re dating, you’ll likely have a list of attributes you’d prefer a potential partner to have – but sometimes, people who don’t fit into those boxes can surprise you and you end up falling for them.
Taking to Mumsnet, a woman admitted that she’d “met someone online”, but felt “shallow” because she was judging him for being shorter than she’d normally go for. She wrote: “I’ve met someone online. We had a date at the weekend and we got on really well. He’s quite short though.
“I feel so shallow for thinking like this, but I have always been attracted to taller men. I’m 5’2 and he isn’t all that much taller than I am. Would this be an issue for you?” She then highlighted that “his bio didn’t have his height on it”.
In the comments, people were quick to point out that connection is so much more important than someone’s height or the way they look. One woman wrote: “I used to be like that until I met my husband, same height. The first few dates it bothered me, by the 4th it was a non-issue. Push by the first few dates and see if there is something there, if it’s still bothering then you know to walk away.” The original poster shared: “I’m trying to push past this I really am!”
Someone else shared: “Imagine in 10 years time realising you turned down a second date with a guy you got on really well with because he was short. I feel sorry for people who think height is even in the top 20 most important characteristics for a partner.”
Another pointed out: “There is no virtue or achievement in being tall. If you like him that’s all that matters and since you are short yourself he is still taller than you.”
One Mumsnetter penned: “Don’t mess him around, it’s not fair on him. He deserves better than someone who is not that interested. Imagine the reverse, if a date made the same comments about you – or pushing past your height, your weight, your body shape.” The original poster said that if she couldn’t look past it, she wouldn’t be “cruel” and tell him the reason why.
Would you be bothered by a potential partner’s height? Let us know in the comments.
