A woman is considering uninviting her fussy cousin from her wedding after she asked her to change catering company to accommodate her dietary requirements – and people are siding with the bride
A woman whose cousin made a drastic demand ahead of her wedding day is thinking of uninviting her.
The bride-to-be revealed her cousin, “Meredith,” likes to hop on trends and told her cousin a week ago that she had decided to follow a vegan, gluten-free diet “for health reasons.”
Taking to Reddit’s Am I The A**hole forum, she wrote: “We recently decided on a catering service that we thought was the best option within our price range that would satisfy all of our guests’ dietary needs. Most significantly, Daniel’s [her fiancé] brother has a tree nut allergy, so we needed a service that would accommodate that, which limited our options.”
After seeing the menu, Meredith claimed the only option she could have contained mushrooms,. which she “despises.” “She asked if there was another catering company I could use,” the poster continued. “I told her no – both Daniel and I looked through the menus for companies that satisfied all dietary needs of our guests and picked the one we liked the most.”
“She complained, ‘everyone’s needs but mine’ and I retorted, ‘Your needs are met. If you do not like mushrooms perhaps you can eat beforehand.'”
The woman said Meredith then suggested her cousin change catering companies – but since she had already gone to great lengths to ensure all existing dietary requirements, including allergies, were catered for, she said no. After Meredith kicked up a fuss, the woman threatened to uninvite her cousin from the big day.
“The next morning I woke up to several messages from Meredith with links to catering companies. A lot of them were all vegan or all gluten free (I am NOT subjecting my guests to a vegan or gluten free wedding), and some of them were companies Daniel and I had looked at.
“I told Meredith my decision was final and that if she pressed more I would uninvite her from my wedding. She has not bothered me since.”
However, now she’s worried she went too far – and fiancé Daniel reckons she could have been nicer to Meredith, claimin it was not too late to swap caterers. |I told him it’s not just about the food or the hassle of change – it’s about principle. Daniel said if I was really that petty and just wanted to teach Meredith a lesson, I should let it go. Does not changing the catering company make me an AH (a**hole)?”
However, people were quick to reassure the bride she was in the right – even vegans and coeliacs agreed. “Like you said, she’s asking you to change your caterer to accommodate her wants, not her needs – I think it’s reasonable to get upset if your wedding didn’t have options for her dietary restrictions, but if there is a vegan gluten free option, it’s not your responsibility to make sure it’s something that she will like,” one said.
“More importantly, it’s your wedding, you should be making sure you cater food that you and your fiancé would enjoy. It is meant to be your day.
Another added: “I am vegan and have been for many years but I still wouldn’t expect you to change anything to suit me. If I didn’t like the option for vegan I would bring something with me, have had to do that before and no doubt will again. It is a me problem so I need to solve it. So does your cousin.”
Meanwhile a third chimed in: “My daughter actually CAN’T eat gluten but she just goes to events like this expecting to not eat. She even usually takes a snack in the event it’s a buffet and there is no gluten free option. This is YOUR wedding. You are not expected to accommodate her whims.”
