A woman has shamed her future mother-in-law for demanding to tag along on her honeymoon so she can bond with her son while he is off work and in a good mood
A woman has been left outraged after her mother-in-law demanded to join her on her honeymoon because she doesn’t want to miss out. She explained how her mother-in-law relies on her son for emotional support – and constantly wants reassurance from him.
It has become so much that he now attends therapy in an attempt to learn how to set healthy boundaries with her. However, she refuses to listen to his concerns – prompting him to go ‘low contact’ with her. But now, his mum has upped the ante and demands to tag along on his honeymoon with his soon-to-be wife.
Taking to Reddit, the bride said: “My future mother-in-law has a very unhealthy relationship with my fiancé, we are low contact with her since he says she makes him feel uncomfortable by her constantly hugging and kissing him and also using him as her therapist (she’s been doing this since he was young, using him to help her solve her adult problems).
“She does this thing where she copies what I do to my fiancé, for instance, if I kiss his cheek she’ll find a way to do the same. I thought I was going crazy when I first noticed she does this so I tested it out by running my fingers through his hair and she did the same thing. “
She says her mother-in-law cornered her at her brother-in-law’s housewarming party, complaining that her son had been pulling away from her. She told me she feels like her and my fiancé’s relationship isn’t the same anymore, so she’d like to come on our honeymoon because he’ll be off work and they can talk things through and bond.
“Obviously, I said no that’s not happening and this grown woman was genuinely shocked I said no. She kept asking why, what are you guys going to be doing that her and future father-in-law can’t be with us. She got the idea from Facebook apparently people have honeymoons with their friends now.
“I said we haven’t had two weeks to just be together since my fiancé got promoted at work a year ago, we’re both looking forward to being together.” Gobsmacked, she turned down her request but her mother-in-law kept insisting and coming up with ideas to ‘make it work’.
She added: “He said why can’t we all just be together, we won’t be all that busy since we’ve been to the country we’re honeymooning in countless times, we’ve seen all the tourist attractions etc so why can’t she come. She kept pestering me so I flat out told her I’d be having sex with her son all day everyday, every inch of that villa so we won’t really have time for all the things she wants to do with my fiancé.
“I thought this would make her uncomfortable and she’d realise how crazy her request is. I was wrong she said sex isn’t that exciting for us to spend all our honeymoon doing it, ‘there’s only so many positions’ she said. She said some other things that still make me cringe a week later.” Refusing to take no for an answer, her mother-in-law came up with a “compromise” saying she’d come for only two weeks of their honeymoon instead.
“She even said we can be as loud as we want, they won’t mind. I told her we’d just like to be alone enjoying each other’s company, we can plan a holiday next year,” she added. “My future father-in-law called me to personally ask that they come even for 5 days so they can bond with my fiancé, they used to be so close. I explained that we would be busy and we could plan a holiday next year.
“He seemed to understand but then messaged me at 1am today to call me an a**hole who doesn’t care I’m ruining a mother and son’s relationship. Am I an a***hole? My future sister-in-law called me to tell me her mother’s been crying for days because of what I said to her, she says to avoid more drama I should just give in because her mother will make my life a living hell.”
Seeking help, she has taken to Reddit to ask users how she can put an end to her mother-in-law’s demands, knowing they’ll only get worse as time goes on. One user said: “This chick is setting herself up for the seven gates of hell. Unless they live thousands of miles away the mother-in-law will literally be butting into their lives.”
Another user added: “As long as the fiancé is soft on this, you have no hope of a peaceful life.” A third user said: “If you ever give in to this woman, she will never quit. When she asks again, clearly state ‘asked and answered’. Walk away. Over and over. She can cry all she wants. No one ever died from crying.”
