A woman has called out her ‘creepy’ mother-in-law for how she behaves around her husband – claiming it’s worlds away from a normal mother-son relationship
A fed-up woman has shamed her mother-in-law over her obsession with her son, claiming she treats him more like a husband than her child.
She explained how she has been married to her husband for nine years – and in all that time, her mother-in-law has always pushed herself into their lives. But after her latest antics, the woman cracked and has taken to social media to share what it’s really like having her mother-in-law in her life.
She said on Reddit: “My mother-in-law is in love with my husband. His mother has always made me feel uncomfortable by the way she talks to him and feels about him, she comments on ‘how sexy’ of a man he is, she talks about how firm his skin is, and his jawbone, and she tells me our children look like ‘her and him made babies’.”
However, things took a dark turn when the overstepping mum sked her son to cuddle up with her because she was having a bad day. The disgruntled wife added: “We are asleep in our bed when we wake up to someone wailing as if they’ve lost a child, or something extremely terrible has happened, when we jump up in the bed it’s her in our doorway, she is sobbing uncontrollably, he immediately asked her ‘What’s wrong?’ ‘What’s going on?’
“She says ‘I’ve just had a terrible bad day’ then she goes on to ask him ‘Can you come lay with me while I hold you and let me smell your hair?’ What the f***! Am I tripping or is this weird as hell.” While clarifying she does not live with her mother-in-law, she explained how she comes and goes from their house as she pleases, much to her annoyance.
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Seeking advice, she has taken to social media to ask users how they’d handle an obsessive mother-in-law. In response, one user said: “It definitely sounds like she substituted her relationship with her son for a romantic one. He needs a lot more help than Reddit and you can provide.
“If you don’t have children, you should separate for a bit while you pursue couples and individual therapy. If he refuses then you should walk away because this level of psychological abuse is not something that people just get over.”
Another user added: “If you’ve never heard the term emotional incest, this is it. And if this has been going on his whole life, your husband may have a really difficult time untangling himself from it.
“I don’t think it’s as simple as saying he needs to set boundaries. Obviously, he does. But what he needs more to be able to process his relationship with his mother honestly.
“It’s really, really hard to be the parentified child of an enmeshed and inappropriately attached parent. It’s hard to recognize it when you’re in it. And hard to detach yourself even when you see the problem.”
A third user said: “Definitely not normal but it’s how he grew up so to him it is. Personally I could never find a man with a relationship like that with his mom attractive at all so props to you for overlooking it. If he isn’t willing to do therapy to see how not normal this is I’d be packing my bags because… gross.”
