A wife who is fed up with her overweight husband has admitted she no longer finds him sexually attractive and is at a loss as to how to get him to change for the sake of their marriage
Although your physical appearance shouldn’t be the most important thing when finding a partner attractive, there’s no doubt that it is a big factor. Naturally, over time our weight goes up and down, particularly when in a long-term relationship but what do you do when your partner’s size becomes a problem?
One woman has opened up about her frustration with her husband and confessed that she no longer finds him sexually attractive. Sharing the issue on social media, she wrote: “My husband has always been a big guy – 6’2 290 lbs when we met 3 years ago. I was fine with it then as he was still able to look good with it (in my eyes at least).
“He assured me he was losing weight. I always kind of held onto hope that he would get to 250 lbs or so which to me is a very sexy weight for a man. He is now 50 lbs larger, 340 lbs. And it breaks my heart every time I look at him.
“He has a visible double chin that looks absolutely awful on him. He’s constantly panting. While I write this, he’s getting dressed and practically wheezing because I guess putting on clothes is difficult for him. His belly juts out in a way that almost obnoxious, like it’s trying to stick out as much as possible. It also jiggles when he walks.”
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The woman explained that even though her husband’s sex drive has stayed the same, her’s has dimished as he’s got heavier. She continued: “Let’s just say I’m not as keen on sex these days. The last time we did it, it felt like some kind of squashing fetish. I still think about how sweaty his belly was and just cringe.
“Lately I’ve been rejecting his every touch hoping that he gets the hint and either finally gets serious about weight loss or leaves me. I say “finally get serious” because I’ve been talking to him about this for years. He always says he’ll get serious after doing this or that. Lately it’s “I’ll finally get serious about it after I graduate from grad school” which will happen in May. I don’t even think I can bear to look at him unchanging for 2 more months.”
The woman added that she cooks all of their meals so she knows he eats healthily at home but guesses that he’s probably snacking on things while at work. She continued: “I feel bad because we’re married and all but am I wrong to just be completely disgusted by his weight?
“I don’t understand how he could get to this point. I can’t fathom how he can look in the mirror and not immediately want to hit the gym. It doesn’t help that he also does nothing else to look – good – grooming, dressing, moisturizing etc. I was able to look past that when he was smaller but now there’s just no excuse. I feel like I’m with an unattractive roommate who pays the bills and tries to f**k me.”
People reading the sensitive Reddit post were torn over the woman’s comments. One person slammed: “He can’t read your damn mind??? He’s not going to ‘get the hint’. He absolutely needs to lose weight but you need to put your big girl panties on and talk to him about it. Unfortunately, tho, he’s not going to change unless hewants to. Use gentle words and talk about it from a health perspective. Telling him you find him disgusting isn’t going to help.”
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