A woman’s admitted to her ‘devastation’ while recovering from ‘excruciating’ tummy tuck surgery, after finding out her husband’s been cheating for three years
A woman has told of her ‘immense pain’ after finding out her husband has been cheating on her for the last three years, while she was pregnant with their child. After admitting she was currently recovering from tummy tuck surgery (which she revealed she had wanted post pregnancy, due to saggy skin), she said the pain was immense, leaving her unable to get out of bed and meaning she was reliant on her husband for everything.
She said: “Tummy tuck surgery is no joke. The pain is intense. I literally can’t do anything. My husband has been helping me get out of bed and walk to the bathroom.” However while only on day four of her recovery, she said she had been left in even more pain, after using her husband’s phone instead of hers the day before, finding pictures and messages that had left her ‘devastated.’
She said: “As soon as I opened his phone it was different. He had hidden photos of his girlfriend. She’s in college and she’s beautiful. This hurts… my husband is cheating on me with a girl that’s half our age.” She also told how reading their messages had been ‘heartbreaking’: “They often talk about me. She’s not very kind. She’s superficial and she called me ugly and ‘that old lady’ and she apparently understands why my husband is cheating on me. She thinks my husband is too handsome for me.”
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She also told how she found out her husband often spends time with her in the town she lives, allowing them to act like they are together as no one knows him there: “My husband treats his girlfriend better than me. He takes her out on dates. He holds her hand. He messages her to drive safely and he sends her good morning beautiful and good night beautiful text messages. He calls her ‘sweet girl’. He tells her he loves her. He cooks for her. He makes an effort to do nice things for her.”
She also revealed that her husband had begun having an affair after she lost her sex drive, post pregnancy: “His affair started to be a ‘friend’s with benefits’ thing, but then they eventually started being in a relationship and having feelings for each other.” And while she hadn’t said anything to her husband as she was too ‘vulnerable’ post surgery, she revealed her heartbreak on Reddit, reaching out for advice while recovering.
Many readers had been in the same position, and were able to offer her constructive help: “When you are healed and ready, speak to an attorney,” said one, while another commented: “Get and keep evidence of the affair. Even if you can’t use it in the divorce case, you have it as leverage if your husband tries to make trouble for you. Plan for finances, a place to live, a vehicle, etc. Don’t tell your husband until you have ALL of those things in order.”
Another agreed, saying: “I kept my mouth shut for 3 years until I got my ducks in a row. You can do this.” One reader said: Your time, energy, and best interests need you to play the long game. Depending on where you live, you need to understand how the law works in your state and have as much evidence as possible.” Another agreed to her taking her time: “In life there are seldom situations where acting on emotion is right. There are lots of times it’s warranted. Seldom are the times it’s wise.”
