A disgruntled woman has revealed she has said no to performing bridesmaid duties at her brother-in-law’s wedding as the bride doesn’t want her as an official bridesmaid
A woman has vented her anger after being told she won’t be an official bridesmaid at her brother-in-law’s wedding, but will be expected to perform bridesmaids duties. After telling how her husband’s brother, who she now considered to be a close friend, had been living with them for the last three years, she said he had recently got engaged to a woman he had been seeing for six months: “I was just informed that I will not be in the wedding and neither will the groom’s sister,” she said.
Admitting the bride had explained the reason was because she was ‘too OCD’ to have uneven numbers of official people to perform duties on the day, she said: “I had suggested having grooms-women because she was crying and saying she couldn’t think of a way to include us and it was immediately shot down because she is ‘too traditional’ for that and she also doesn’t want a large bridal party.”
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However, after taking the fact she would be excluded with official duties on board, she was then left ‘blindsided’ at the bride’s subsequent request: “I was told that I will likely wear the same colour as the bridesmaids and may have a little job such as watching the guest book and will do everything a bridesmaid does on the day of EXCEPT FOR BE A BRIDESMAID.”
She admitted to being upset for many reasons, including her brother-in-law saying nothing during the conversation: “He rubbed her back in support as she cried because she was uncomfortable telling me. My husband now walks down the aisle with someone else. He is NOT happy.”
And while she was also clearly unhappy, she revealed she didn’t want to bring it up to the couple as she knew how stressful planning a wedding could be: “I know planning a wedding is difficult. My husband and I got married two years ago and the planning was a nightmare! I don’t want to add to that.”
After taking her bridesmaid brouhaha to Reddit, many readers sided with her on the stressful situation, with one commenting: “If she wants you to do bridesmaid things, then she needs to make you a bridesmaid.”
Many others agreed: “The nerve of her to ask you to do jobs at her wedding, honestly…Just tell her ‘no, I’d rather just be a guest, thanks,’”, said one, with another saying: “The nerve to dictate the dress colour to someone not in the wedding… nope.”
Another reader said: “She made it clear she doesn’t want you involved in the wedding and for you to be a guest. So be a guest and for the love of God don’t wear the same colour dress as the bridesmaids!”
However one reader saw it from both sides: “You have every right to be hurt, and even upset at your brother-in-law. But ultimately, it’s their wedding, and they have every right to have who they want up there with them.”
