A woman confessed she is becoming “grossed out by” her husband’s vile habits, which she says are ruining their marriage – and other users agree the man should step up
A woman has been left grossed out by her husband’s bad habits and she’s worried they could ruin their marriage.
Taking to Mumsnet, the disgruntled wife revealed her hubby has been engaging in some pretty vile behaviour and said it was causing her to lose attraction to him “fast”. Other users were quick to agree the anonymous mum had a right to be annoyed and came up with some suggestions as to how she could broach the subject.
“I’ve been with my husband for 20 years,” she said. “We have a 10 year old and for the most part we’ve had a great relationship. He really is my best friend.
“I don’t know if he’s getting more gross with age or I’m getting more intolerant in my perimenopausal age, but he’s starting to really gross me out and I’m losing attraction for him fast.”
The mum said over the past year her husband’s hands were “always down his trousers”. She added she had found body hairs “all over the house” including on her plate.
Her husband also didn’t wash his hands after “rubbing his nose” and even once “sneezed phlegm onto his arm and then licked it up.”
“I’ve pulled him up on this many times and he just days ‘I’m a gross man, what do you expect,'” she said. “He didn’t used to be like this so I don’t know what’s happening. He gets defensive when I pull him up on it.”
The woman added other than these complaints, she and her husband got on well and shared chores evenly – she even praised his cooking. However, she said she had been struggling to “keep the fire going after 20 years” even without her husband’s unfortunate behaviour and feared it could kill their attraction. “Am I being unreasonable? Any advice? Anyone else relate?” she added.
Others were quick to chime in with their own thoughts. One wrote: “No of course you aren’t being unreasonable. What you’ve described is nasty. With those things in mind I don’t think I would be able to enjoy his great cooking.”
Another related to the original poster’s plight. They wrote: “Mine keeps hacking up phlegm into my kitchen sink and honestly it makes me feel physically sick. Absolute hard relate from me.”
Other commenters suggested the woman talk to her husband and make it clear how much his behaviour bothered her. “Oh dear. You guys seem to have a good relationship apart from the grossness, so seriously taking to him might help. He might not realise how much it bothers you and puts you off him. We all bit nasty sometimes but this is ugh. Tell him that you can’t look at him in the same way when he’s being disgusting.”
Another agreed: “That is vile – you need to have a chat with him and let him know you’re serious about it being unacceptable.”
