A bride has decided to axe her dad from an important role at her upcoming wedding because there’s someone else in her life who deserves the ‘honour’ – but he’s heartbroken
Choosing who to have in your wedding party isn’t always easy.
If you’ve ever planned a wedding before, you’ll know how tricky it can be to decide who you want as your bridesmaids, ushers, flower girl, and all the other roles. For many brides, choosing who will walk them down the aisle is a no-brainer, as it’s a role traditionally filled by the woman’s father.
One bride has decided not to have her dad give her away on her wedding day, however, because she doesn’t believe he deserves the “honour”. The woman explained she’s already had a “complicated” relationship with her dad, and has decided to ask her mum to walk her down the aisle because she’s been a “constant support” in her life.
In a post on Reddit, the bride-to-be said she told her dad the news after he explained how “excited” he was to give her away – and her decision left him “heartbroken”.
She wrote: “I’m getting married in two months. My relationship with my father has always been complicated. My parents divorced when I was 10 and my father wasn’t around much after that. He started a new family and I felt like I was no longer a priority. My mum raised me pretty much on her own.
“As my wedding day approaches, my father has expressed how excited he is to walk me down the aisle. This is where things get complicated. My mum has been my constant support and I’ve always envisioned her walking me down the aisle. She was there for every important moment in my life while my dad was mostly absent.
“I had a heart-to-heart with my father and told him how I felt. I explained that I wanted my mum to walk me down the aisle because she’s the one who’s always been there for me. My father was heartbroken and accused me of punishing him for the past. He said he thought we had moved past everything.”
The woman said her siblings have told her she’s being “too harsh” on her dad and she should let him walk her down the aisle to help “mend” their relationship. And while the bride wants to “honour” her mum, she also doesn’t want to “hurt” her dad.
Commenters on the post urged her to stick to her guns, however. Many of them said she was “rewarding” her mum for supporting her rather than “punishing” her dad.
One person said: “You are not punishing your father, but rather rewarding your mother. Why wouldn’t she get to have her moment?” And another added: “Your wedding your choice. Besides he wasn’t there for you as a parent so why should he get the honour of walking you down?”
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