After finding a box of condoms in her husband’s drawer, a woman took to Mumsnet to ask others for their thoughts – prompting more fears for her ‘rocky’ relationship
A woman has been left questioning the state of her relationship after discovering a box of condoms in her husband’s drawer.
The shock find came after she admitted the pair “haven’t used them for years” and have undergone a “rocky patch” of late. Taking to Mumsnet, she admitted that although she didn’t want to “jump to conclusions”, the find has left her with severe doubts.
“Why would he put them in his drawer when he knows I put the washing away and could quite likely find them?” she asked other women on the Relationships forum. “I will speak to him but need to get my head straight. Is there ever an innocent reason for him having them?”
Although the box appeared to be unopened with the products having an expiry date in August 2027, other Mumsnet users agreed the woman was right to be suspicious. “You are in a sexless relationship,” one person explained. “Your partner has recently bought condoms. Your partner is in a sexual relationship elsewhere. There is literally no other reason for them.”
A second agreed: “It doesn’t look innocent at all. If for some reason there is a reasonable explanation (not sure what that could be!) then perhaps it’s time to address the lack of intimacy and other issues. It’s not a nice way to exist in a relationship, for either of you.”
While a third didn’t hold back, penning: “I think I’d be working out the value of the house, and generally being practical about how to organise things in the event that I become a single woman.”
Offering a glimmer of hope, however, a fourth woman suggested an alternative theory. “I suppose the only exception would be if you have a teenage son and he’s planning to give them to him but doesn’t want to tell you in case you’ll disapprove,” she said.
And encouraged slightly, the original poster responded: “We do have a young teenage son. He has no interest in relationships as far as I can see. I can’t see DH having those conversations with him but I could be wrong. If that is the reason, I’m wondering why hide them and not tell me.”
She later returned to her post having digested the replies and expressed her “sadness” at the sorry situation. “Time to get my head out of the sand,” she declared. “I was hoping this was innocent. Obviously I’ll speak to him to give him a chance to explain. But wanted to prepare myself for any excuses too. So sad.
“What hurts more is that I’ve given him several chances to leave over the last few years since he’s totally disengaged and distanced himself from me. But he’s said there is no one else and he doesn’t wasn’t to leave.”
