A man was left having to admit that he regretted his marriage to his in-laws, and they were left horrified, with his wife’s dad saying that he needed to apologise
Getting married is a big deal, as you’re promising the rest of your life to the one person you love and trust more than anyone else.
But one man admitted that he and his wife of three weeks both “regretted having a traditional wedding” as they “both wanted to elope” – but because of expectations on them, they ignored their own wishes.
“We ended up not eloping due to family pressure, mostly from her parents who made her feel bad being their only daughter and potentially ‘denying them the chance to see their daughter get married’ and said she’d regret having ‘her moment'”, he explained.
He said that he reckoned that her parents wanted “their moment”, rather than caring about her having hers. He explained that the past year had been full of “unnecessary drama”, and it was so “expensive”, even though both sets of parents paid for a lot of the nuptials and celebrations.
“Overall it was a year of stress, a bunch of drama over things like who should be in the wedding party/invited to the wedding, and all the wedding drama I always heard about”, he explained on Reddit’s ‘Am I The A**hole’ forum.
He said that neither of them had “fun” either on the actual day, as they both get “mild social anxiety”, which is a “big part” of why they wanted to elope. “It was as bad as we expected it to be”, he shared.
The disgruntled man continued: “We got back from our honeymoon on Thursday and this weekend we were at her parent’s house for Father’s Day. They really wanted to pat themselves on the back for convincing us to do the traditional wedding and kept making comments like ‘See wasn’t that so much fun!’.
“At first we’d politely agree and try to change the subject but I kinda broke towards the end of the night when they made a suggestion that we disagreed with and my mother-in-law said ‘Oh honey, of course it’s your decision but just remember I was right about the wedding and I think I’m right about this’.”
This caused the husband to “lose it”, telling them how much they “hated the experience”. “They asked my wife if it’s true and she broke down and said it’s 100% true, she hated the whole experience”, he wrote. “We left shortly after but then this morning her dad called me saying how rude I was and how he wanted me to go over there to apologise to his wife in person.”
In the comments, people were shocked, saying that his wife’s parents “don’t respect them”. “They’ve already bullied their daughter into a docile little doll they can manipulate at will and didn’t like the pushback the original poster gave them”, they wrote.
Another wrote: “I really don’t understand how some people can just get guilted into doing it […] my boundaries are clear.”
Someone else added: “You extended grace to your family by staying quiet, which was very kind. There’s only so much you can take, though. They kept pushing for validation that they were right, and it was absolutely time to let them know that they were wrong about a big wedding being a good idea.”
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