A polyamorous man with seven girlfriends has a vigorous screening process in place for potential new lovers – he has a partner for every day of the week but still wants more
With a harem of seven girlfriends and counting, this Yorkshire man certainly has his hands full – but he’s looking for another lover.
The green-eyed monster may rear its ugly head in any relationship but when there’s eight people involved, the chances of jealousy causing problems are drastically higher than normal. One man, who is on a mission to become a modern day Hugh Hefner, believes he has the answer to overcoming any negative feelings within his band of lovers.
LX Ander, who hails from Yorkshire, but currently lives and works in LA as a music producer, thinks maintaining harmony is easily achievable: “It’s all about communication and working through those feelings together,” he says. “Sometimes I have to give one partner more attention and love than the others for a while.”
Despite the time it must take keeping everyone happy, LX is always on the lookout for new girlfriends but he has high standards and an “elaborate” screening process in place. He tends to choose women who are shorter in height, “pretty” and natural without heavy makeup.
When it comes to emotional attributes, he’s much deeper: “I need a girl who is genuinely interested in a real connection,” the 33 year old says. “Every now and again, I get girls who are trying to date me in a ‘transactional’ way and it really turns me off. If I feel like she has a hidden agenda, I’m out of there.
“She needs to be sweet and soft – not too hectic – but I do tend to attract the ‘bad girl’ vibe. Although, my favourites are introverts and I really love someone who is physically affectionate.”
It’s the physical aspect that is the deal breaker for LX, because he wants all his girlfriends to be bisexual so there is harmony in the bedroom and it can be a place of “exploration”. He explains: “I want someone who is just as excited by women as she is by men. I need things to stay fresh with everyone involved”.
LX thinks everyone should try his way of life and decided it was for him because it just felt “right” and because he’s seen friends and others around him “destroyed” by traditional relationships. He doesn’t think they suit a lot of people, which is why they go on to cheat. “Too many people lie to themselves about their desires and feelings in a relationship – and monogamy can be quite toxic,” he says. “Men are biologically programmed to ‘spread their seed’ and shouldn’t feel guilty for being attracted to other people.”
Although he agrees 10 girlfriends would be “challenging”, LX plans to keep adding to his harem until he feels content. “Sometimes, I feel like I’m a ‘service provider’ for my girlfriends though – they come to me and have their needs met. As long as everyone involved feels safe and comfortable, then that’s all that really matters,” he says.
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