A woman has sparked heavy debate online after revealing she’s been snubbed from her life-long friend’s wedding ceremony despite forking out more than £250 to attend the hen night
A woman has been left ‘hurt’ after realising she hasn’t been invited to her ‘close’ friend’s wedding.
Organising the guest list on your big day can be a stressful job, and can take hours of planning (especially if you have divorced parents who refuse to sit within a one-mile radius of each other). But, how do you break it to those who haven’t made the cut?
In the UK, it’s common to invite an intimate crowd to the ceremony, and then have a bigger celebratory bash for the evening reception. However, one woman can’t believe the future bride hasn’t invited her to see the couple tie the knot after spending £100s on her hen do.
Taking to Mumsnet, the anonymous woman explained the she’d known the bride-to-be for 18 years and considered her a ‘close friend’ – who had been invited to a slew of ‘important events’ including the woman’s graduation and baby shower. “A week or so after the hen do I messaged her to find out timings for the wedding, as I still hadn’t heard anything but had overheard several others talking about invites and accommodation bookings,” the post reads.
“She then replied telling me that my invite is 7pm onwards (evening guest) and that she’ll get an invite to me in the next couple of weeks.” The woman says she now feels ‘hurt’ by the situation, and thinks she has been ‘grouped in with work and other more distant friends’ who won’t be attending the actual ceremony. She has also forked out more than £250 for her hen do and is now considering meeting up with the future bride to discuss the situation over coffee.
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Swathes of viewers flocked to the comments section to share their thoughts – with many divided by the situation. Some slammed the bride-to-be for snubbing her friend, with one user stating: “Maybe I’m petty but I probably wouldn’t go at all. Super s**t to invite you to the hen do and not the ceremony. If it happened to me I would assume she’s only interested in me being fun at a party and not actually caring about me as a friend.”
Another agreed, commenting: “I think it’s weird that you were invited to her graduation and baby shower but not the whole day for her wedding.” While a third added: “I’d drop her as a friend if someone I was close to showed me how little importance I had in their life.”
However, others argued the woman should have her autonomy when it comes to the wedding, and branded the uninvited guest as ‘sensitive’. “It was your choice to pay out £250 to go on a hen do,” one person wrote. “You have been invited to the evening party. You can go, or you can decline, but [you can’t] criticise.”
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