Being able to end a pregnancy in a safe and healthy way is a fundamental human right that is not afforded to everyone. But one woman who ‘outed’ her sister to their parents is asking whether she went too far
People choose to terminate pregnancies for a number of different reasons. This could be anything from the pregnancy being a result of sexual assault, or discovering the baby wouldn’t survive outside the womb, – even simply just not wanting to have children. They are a fundamental human right and there’s no right or wrong answer. In fact, the only person who gets to have an opinion on the subject is the person having the abortion.
One woman has asked for feedback after she ‘outed’ her sister for undergoing a termination to her parents and being directly responsible for the resulting fallout. Taking to social media to share the situation, the 23-year-old explained that recently she and her family were sat around having dinner together when the subject came up.
She wrote: “We were talking about some extended family we hadn’t heard from in a long time. During the discussion, my mum informed us that one of our cousins had to get an abortion because she has a history of eclampsia and there was a big chance of her not making it if she decided to carry the baby to term. She almost died last time she was pregnant.
“She told us to call her and ask how she’s doing and if we could do anything for her. My sister, 26, objected heavily, basically saying that abortion is a crime and that all of us allowing it to happen are basically helping her sin and killing babies. Now, we are all religious in my family but are also very pro-choice.
“My parents especially raised us on the principles of ‘your body, your choice’. One of the things my dad always says is: ‘Do not judge anyone because you feel like your beliefs are better than others. They’re not’.
“Now, my sister was not always like that; she did believe in no sex before marriage, but without slut-shaming, she was not exactly living by those principles. She got pregnant a few years ago with her boyfriend, and she was so afraid that people would shame her because she did the deed in private while telling everyone in public that she was as pure as a saint, that she decided to get an abortion.
“She didn’t tell anyone, but I found out because her then-boyfriend was the brother of one of my friends. And she told me. That was 5 years ago, and I had not told anyone until last week at the dinner.
“It really was not intentional, but during the argument, when she said we were all helping my cousin kill a baby, I laughed and said something along the lines of ‘well that’s rich coming from you’. As soon as I said it, she turned white, and my parents kind of picked up on it and asked me to explain myself.
“I told them. She got an abortion 5 years ago but still acts like she never heard of sex. That she is a hypocrite that flaunts her high moral ground, looking down on us, speaking of sins that she herself did. My parents asked her if it was true, and she just sat there mute for I don’t know how long.
“They asked me if I could leave so they could speak to her without my presence. I have not heard from her since then, but my mum called me the day after, and she was very upset at me because it was not my place to tell.”
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People reading the Reddit post were torn by the sensitive predicament but the majority opting to support the woman for calling her sister out. One person replied: “No the a******, you didn’t say anything for 5 years. I don’t think you were being malicious. She is being mean, eclampsia is a real danger, and the fact that she has this kind of stand when she is hardly a saint makes her indeed a hypocrite. Frankly, you kept it for way longer than I would have.”
Another user added: “Her poisonous concoction of oppression and dishonesty needed to be put down. You served human rights and ethics.” And someone else offered: “You’re not in the wrong but your mother is being unfair. They specifically asked you to explain yourself. You did. Your sister was ridiculous and unreasonable.”
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