A woman has been ‘put off’ going on a date with a man she met on a dating app after he sent her a bizarre message just days before they were meant to meet that made her rethink everything
The world of dating has gotten a lot more complicated in recent years, and many of us now turn to apps in the hopes of finding that special someone.
While some people have found success on dating apps, others have had awful encounters with the potential partners they’ve matched with.
And one woman has said she’s been completely “put off” of going on a date with a man she met online after she read the message he sent her just days before they were due to meet up.
In a post on Mumsnet, the woman explained she and her date had planned to meet this weekend for a “bite to eat”. In the interest of keeping things casual, they were going to go to a “waffle place”.
But just days before their date, the man sent her a message saying he’d rather go for a short walk first to “see how we feel”. This four-word request convinced the woman her date wants to be able to leave quickly if he doesn’t like her, instead of committing to the full date, and she’s no longer sure if she wants to go.
She wrote: “I made a profile on an app and some guy asked me out for a bite to eat. I said yes, and we’ve agreed to meet this weekend. Now he’s said shall we have a short walk first before the food to ‘see how we feel’?
“That’s obviously code for, ‘I’ll see if I fancy you and if not I don’t have to eat with you’. It wasn’t a fancy sit-down meal, just a quick bite to eat. Should I still go ahead? I don’t know why, this has put me off slightly. It was only some waffle place, I wouldn’t go for a formal meal for a first date either. Should I still go?”
In a follow-up post, the woman argued that going for a walk before their actual date makes her feel like she’s being “assessed”, and said that if the man finds her “grotesque” he can just finish his waffle quickly and leave.
Commenters on the post were split on the subject, however. Some agreed that the walk served as a “test” to ensure she was “worth” a full date, while others said the walk also gives her a “way out” if the man isn’t what she expected.
One person said: “To be fair, it gives you a way out as well if you don’t hit it off. Could be an awkward meal if you are both sitting there with nothing to say.” Another added: “That works both ways of course. After the walk, you can just tell him that you don’t want to eat with him.”
But someone else agreed with the woman, stating: “Yes, I’ve heard of men doing this to see if you are worth it, I personally wouldn’t agree to go for a walk as a date.”
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