A woman has given her boyfriend of six years an ultimatum. If he doesn’t do the one thing she’s been asking for then she’ll dump him – and she’s given him a year to do it
Sometimes you have to make hard decisions for the sake of your own happiness.
There’s no right or wrong way to navigate a relationship when it comes to taking things to the next level. You and your partner might decide that marriage isn’t for you and you have no desire to tie the knot, or you could be confident that you want to get married within a couple of years of dating.
But one woman is losing patience with her boyfriend six years into their romance, as he still hasn’t popped the question and proposed to her – despite telling her it’s something he wants.
The 24-year-old woman said the couple already act as though they are married and have talked about tying the knot before, but her partner hasn’t taken the leap and actually proposed. She claimed he first said he would propose two years ago when the woman finished university, and she’s still waiting – so now she’s given him an ultimatum.
In a post on Reddit, she said: “Now it’s getting to the point where I am saying to him that I don’t care how it’s done, I would just want to be engaged to be married in a year or so. He constantly says how much he wants to marry me and create a future where we are our own little family, but every time I ask him what’s stopping him he just says he doesn’t know.
“I thought the whole nervousness around proposing is not knowing how your [partner] would react, but at this point I am practically begging for a proposal. Because of this, I have given him an ultimatum of either he proposes by the end of the year, or I want to break up.”
The woman asked fellow Reddit users if she was wrong for threatening to dump her boyfriend if he doesn’t propose within the next year – and people online were mixed. Some said she has to think of her own happiness and do what’s best for her, but others insisted she’s still young and marriage can definitely wait.
One person wrote: “Has an ultimatum ever worked in these situations? Apparently, there is something stopping him from proposing. I think a deeper conversation about why that is would be a better way to approach things.”
Another added: “You are allowed to break up with anyone at any time for any reason. However, if he’s not ready to be married, he’s not ready to be married. That is a lifelong commitment, it’s more than just a wedding. Some people take it extremely seriously, as they should. My only advice is this: don’t rush. 24 is still so very very young. You have a whole lifetime ahead of you.”
While a third posted: “Why don’t you just propose to him? Either he’s actually going to marry you or he’s not, you proposing forces the issue and lets you know whether you need to move on. You’re letting him avoid the issue by expecting that the proposal can only come from him.”
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