A mum was really struggling with her daughter’s fussy eating, as she refused to eat the healthy meals her mum was making and wanted ‘frozen pizza’, ‘cream’ and more ‘cheese’
At some point in your life, you’ve likely been on a health kick – but temptations can come at you from all angles.
When you’re trying to eat in a calorie deficit, it can be tricky to stick to your goals, and you’ll need those around you to support you. Of course, you don’t need to totally restrict what you’re eating, and you can still occasionally indulge in the things you love. But if you want to see consistent weight loss, then you’ll need to be eating plenty of fruit and veggies, and exercise regularly.
One mum was proud of her 16 kilo weight loss since Christmas, saying she was “halfway there” to her goal – but her teen daughter was not helping matters. Taking to Mumsnet, she explained: ” I’m alone with my teenage daughter and she is not impressed with the daily menu.
“I eat a lot of vegetables, as in oven-baked red beets, carrots, onion, haricot vert, peas, whatever greens. Steak or grilled chicken – and for her, potatoes, feta and bernaise. (Example but usually varied as this).”
But her daughter isn’t happy, and “wants a lot more pasta” – as well as “cream” and “cheese”. The mum even said that all she’ll eat is “frozen pizza, chips”, or she’ll “get a takeaway” – but it was making her feel bad.
She penned: “I happily buy and point out she is welcome to cook all she wants. She, on the other hand, thinks it is my responsibility as a parent to cook for her taste and she is not to be ‘left to fend for herself’. Who is wrong?”
In the comments, people said that she was more than old enough to start cooking for herself if she didn’t fancy what her mum was eating. “My kids were cooking for themselves from 13ish. She can have what you are making for yourself or cook for her in my opinion”, one raged.
Another said: “I am tied on this. Yes she should be able to cook but I was a teenager who had to ‘fend for herself’. It is kind of depressing and lonely. It is much nicer to eat and talk together. Could you cook together and spend some time together?”
Someone wrote: “She doesn’t have to fend for herself, she could eat the healthy food that you eat. But she chooses not to, so she can sort herself out!”
A Mumsnetter assured her she’d done nothing wrong, saying: “You sound very reasonable. You’re providing excellent meals and allowing her to cook. I vote you stick to your guns.
“Mine are 14 – they can plan, by ingredients for and cook for the family and bake a cake too, they frequently fend for themselves or do dinner for us all when we’re home late or I can’t be a***d to cook. They were probably cooking decent full meals when they were 12.”
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