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Shirley Flynn hasn’t been on a date in six years because ‘men are scared off’ by her beauty, but she’s still determined to find the ‘one guy who is ready to rise to the challenge’
Shirley Rosemary Flynn believes her beauty is getting in the way of her finding love.
The 41-year-old model claims she can’t get a date because men are scared off by her looks. Single Shirley hasn’t been on a date for six years and despite arranging meet ups, she says potential suitors often cancel on her at the last minute. She also claims she struggles to make friends because women envy her appearance and don’t want her stealing their limelight. When her sister gets invited on nights out and to weddings, Shirley gets told she can’t come.
“I feel that men see my profile on social media and are interested and make a date, then get scared and cancel last minute,” the influencer from the West Midlands said.
“I get accused of having cosmetic surgery and people say my bust is fake – it’s not fake it’s real. I get accused of it all the time, they don’t like to see a woman with natural curves and natural beauty – I’m plus-sized and men seem to find that more attractive. When I used to go out with a lot of female friends, they didn’t like going out with me because they knew men would surround me and they felt intimidated. It makes me feel good about myself getting attention – I see it as a bit of fun and a bit of power.
“I think women see me as threat and men see me as challenge.” Shirley says blokes lavish her with attention on social media – but claims she only gets “backhanded” compliments from women. And she says all her friends are male, explaining how she doesn’t trust women as they’re “catty and jealous”. But she says she doesn’t let it affect her and believes it’s because they’re not as confident as her.
Shirley says her good looks have even caused issues with ex-boyfriends who would get jealous when she got attention from other men. But she says she hasn’t given up hope on finding ‘the one’ – and is looking for a man who can rise to the challenge of dating her.
“I’m not going to give up on hope, I’m not 80 yet and I’m still looking ,” said Shirley. “I just need to find that one guy who’s ready to rise to the challenge of dating me and being with me.
“One guy I met on social media, I liked him a lot but I think he got a bit frightened and pulled out at the last minute. A lot of men will arrange dates with me then cancel – why give me all this attention a then pull away at the last minute.
“I think women get jealous of me because they think I’ll steal the attention away from them. It’s been going on for a long time, for years – I’ve lost a lot of friends because of this. Why should I feel guilty for feeling happy about myself or feel guilty for loving myself, why feel bad about it because somebody else doesn’t feel good about themselves.”
