A woman has been left horrified after discovering her little brother is related to someone she never expected – so she’s taken to social media to ask for advice
A woman is reeling from the revelation that her three-year-old brother is in fact the child of her fiancé. The 24-year-old shared on Reddit how her eight-year romance with her 25 year old fiancé, who was a close childhood friend, has been rocked by this discovery.
She’s always cherished the bond with her mother, which she likens to Rory and Lorelai’s enviable relationship on Gilmore Girls. She posted: “My fiancé and I have been together since we were 17 and 18-years-old. Honestly, he was always kind, handsome, funny and everyone used to say I was so lucky to have the whole package.
“I felt so lucky too. He always treated me with love and respect, so this makes everything just so shocking for me. I have always had a good relationship with my mum. It has always been her and I against the world. My dad died in an accident when I was little. My mum dated guys on and off and they were usually cool but nothing really passed the early stages.”
Her life was thrown into turmoil four years ago when her then 42-year-old mum unexpectedly announced her pregnancy. She added: “Although she was sort of dating someone recently (I didn’t meet the guy but knew she went on dates) it still was a big shock. She never thought she could be pregnant at her age (she had me when she was super young – an oopsie) and I can tell she was stressed and worried.
“I decided to support her since she has always supported me and tried to reassure her. She then had my brother who is now three-years-old. I have a close relationship with my brother, I have helped take care of him since he was born and I just love the little guy.”
She shared that her fiancé also stepped in to help entertain her young brother, taking him out for ice cream, to the playground, and to the swimming pool during the summer months.
“Nothing was weird – he was just my then-boyfriend spending time with my brother and me,” she added. However, her world was turned upside down when she borrowed her fiancé’s iPad to watch Netflix after her laptop died.
She said: “At some point during binge-watching a series on Netflix, my laptop died and I was too lazy to go get my charger, so I just took my fiance’s iPad.
“I know the password but honestly never used it before. The iPad logged in and I got a bunch of messages pinging (I guess he hasn’t used it in a while too?). Anyway, this got my attention and I went to check it out and I found everything. My mum’s number wasn’t under her name but I recognised the number and verified it with my phone.
“She was telling him she felt guilty and that I should know. He said he also felt guilty but couldn’t lose me and they f***ed it up. She said that it was unfair for my brother to never not know his dad, and that if he could live having his son around not behaving like a dad but a brother-in-law. I broke down. What the actual F!”.
Digging deeper, she stumbled upon several photos of her mum pregnant, her brother as a newborn, and other snapshots capturing his early years. She confessed: “I couldn’t anymore. I cried for what seemed ages and I waited for my boyfriend to come back home. I wish I was one of those women who can pretend and get things together before confronting the cheater but I can’t.
“He returned later that night (around 11.30pm) and I just handed him the iPad with the conversation opened and watched his face turn ghostly pale. I demanded an explanation, when? how? why? and he was reluctant at first, but knew he had to. Apparently, a few years ago while I was away with some friends (girls’ trip) my fiance and mum had dinner together.
“This isn’t odd since he has been part of the family for so long, sometimes my mum and fiance would dine together at our place even if I was tied up with sports or out – I did the same with his parents. Somehow (unclear how since he couldn’t explain it well) one thing led to another and they ended up sleeping together.
“They felt guilty but apparently not guilty enough because they slept together two or three more times, using the excuse of meeting up to discuss how to tell me. Apparently, when my mum got pregnant they stopped sleeping together and decided to not tell me, since my fiancé ‘loved me and couldn’t lose me’ and my mum didn’t wanna lose her daughter.”
Horrified, she ended her engagement and remains estranged from her mum regarding the issue. She’s currently staying with a friend, seeking out a therapist because she admits she “can’t deal with this alone”.
She asked for advice on the matter – and social media users rallied around her. One commented: Damn. Just damn. I’m so sorry you’re going through this. Seems like hell on Earth. You’ve got everyone here’s support and keep doing you! You’re doing great already and just keep moving forward, wishing you the best!”.
Another weighed in: “The best thing to do is to get into counseling, you’ll want to mentally prepare yourself for the inevitable. You said it yourself, they most likely will try to confront you at either work or when you’re out and about and the last thing you want is to be caught off guard and not be ready to handle that confrontation on your own!”.
A third user said: “Omg you poor thing. Betrayed by the two people, you should be able to trust the most. They are both just so disgusting. I can never understand when you read about mothers or sisters doing this. Your mother is absolutely vile. Lowest of the low. Your ex is just trash.
“You are so much better than either one of them. My heart just hurts for you. You deserve a much better mother than the one you got. Please never speak to or forgive either one of them. Cut them both dead.”
