A Mumsnet user has appealed for help in how to address her boyfriend this weekend after discovering from a pal that he’d been using dating web sites behind her back
A woman’s hurt turned to anger after discovering her boyfriend has been using dating websites – and now she’s appealing for advice on what to do next.
Slamming the man in question on Mumsnet in a foul-mouthed rant, she explained the pair had been in a relationship for 11 months when her pal sent her a screenshot of his misdemeanours. She added that they’d had the “exclusive chat” and all “seemed good” during their “regular meets”.
The woman continued: “At first I tried to look at it as positively as can be.. .maybe it’s an old profile… but no he likes her profile and he has recently been active. I am so hurt and gutted but I’m happy to say my anger has taken over!”
Now, however, she’s at a loss as to how to address the situation before the weekend. “We were meant to see each other for the whole weekend this weekend coming all planned, dinner booked, swimming, walks a lunch, cinema… obviously now I’m not going,” she revealed.
“Any advice on what I should message? I don’t feel he is owed the dignified face to face end it… seriously what an absolute b*****d!”
She closed: “I don’t want to be hysterical in my message, classy would be good but also let him know what I have been shown! I’m so glad he has never met this friend! He has no idea who she is… utter scumbag.”
The woman was soon inundated with dozens of messages, with other Mumsnet users detailing several ways to get back at him. “He doesn’t deserve any explanation , photo or anything else. If no energy for catfish humiliation, just ghost him,” one person penned.
Another mused: “I’m thinking that I’d probably leave it till the last minute then block him. Or just message ‘Bye’ with the screenshot. Hopefully you have a friend that you could spend the evening with. At least you have found out that he’s not the guy you thought he was and you get to dump him.”
A third agreed: “I would get this over and done with asap but that’s just me, I’d hate to have this hanging over me for a day or two. Just send him the shot and block. Or message and block.”
Meanwhile, a fourth suggested: “I like the idea of setting him up on multiple dates and not showing up. But it’s up to you. Maybe it’s time you don’t want to waste on him. You’re feeling hurt from the shock, but it will pass over time. I’m sorry. Nothing surprises me anymore when it comes to men.”
After taking in the comments, the woman later returned to her post to thank everyone for their help. “Thanks for the replies I am so hurt, my heart is racing, really shocked by this one actually! And takes a lot to shock me,” she said.
“Hurt but angry and I’m strong so I know I’ll never ever go on a date with this slimy worm again! So I’m not sure I have the energy for the catfish suggestions. My friend suggested not messaging anything at all and then when it comes to this weekend leave him on read when he asks what time I’m going over , leave on read a good few hours… then send the screenshot.”
