How would you feel if your partner took a shine to someone else? One 30-year-old woman claims ‘another girl’ is wreaking havoc in her two-year relationship – but it’s probably the last person you’d expect
Hearing your partner compliment someone else may not bother you.
But one woman claims her boyfriend’s admiration for another woman is now sparking tension in their relationship and she’s unsure what to do next. The awkward situation unravelled when the 30-year-old woman took to the internet to rant about her boyfriend of two years.
Although he’s very family-oriented, caring and seemingly quite chatty, his love for this ‘other girl’ is something she simply can’t look past. And while you may be envisioning an attractive colleague or overly friendly neighbour, this isn’t the case at all.
In fact, it’s actually his younger sister. “Recently, however, his younger sister (32F) seems to be coming up more frequently in our day-to-day conversations, and it’s starting to bother me,” the woman explained anonymously on Reddit.
“For example, the other day we were talking about a new movie that came out, and he says: ‘My sister has always been my favourite person to talk about movies [and] movie critiques with’. I recently have been considering a career change, and he would say things like: ‘My sister went through the same thing before, and she handled it so gracefully/masterfully/logically (etc etc etc)’.”
The woman said she is very happy for his sister and thinks it’s ‘so lovely’ to be that proud of a sibling. But now, she claims it’s impossible to talk about anything at all without mention of his sister – and it’s becoming ‘quite tedious’.
She continued: “Like, I can’t talk about myself or anything with him without him telling me about how great his sister is. And it’s not like she’s a child / significantly younger or anything where it would be considered ‘cute’. We’re all pretty old (lol).
“I’ll do certain things sometimes (like the other day I stacked dirty dishes when clearing the table) and he would say something like, ‘If my sister were here that would bother her so much…’, ‘My sister hates it when people…’. Last week I snapped back and said: ‘Well, she’s not here is she?'”
Completely baffled, the woman has no idea what to do next. She’s tried asking him about it, but he seemed to brush it off. She asked: “What do I do in this situation? Should I talk about it or let it be? I have siblings myself, so know that saying something like ‘you talking about your sister all the time is very annoying’ would be a hard [conversation].”
The confession has since racked plenty of comments on Reddit. One concerned reader wrote: “It’s like he is negging you by comparing you to his sister. Does he put you down in other ways too or make you doubt yourself or ruin your confidence?
“It’s also weird that he’s comparing his girlfriend to his sister so much anyway. He’s in a romantic relationship with you and his sister is his family. It’s just icky.”
Meanwhile, another added: “You should absolutely talk to him. Let him know you love his sister and it’s not about jealousy. You’d just like it if he focused more on you when you’re talking about yourself.”
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