When one woman’s boyfriend made a strange request with regards to her long luscious locks, she was left wondering whether it was a ‘red flag’ or a perfectly normal thing to ask
If you live with someone with long hair, you’ll be all too familiar with random strands lying around – but they’re easily hoovered up.
One woman admitted she was caught “off guard” by a comment her boyfriend made about her locks, however, and she was wondering whether what he’d asked was “red flag” behaviour.
“I’m in a fairly new relationship. My boyfriend and I are both in our late 20s. So I’ve started to spend more overnights at my boyfriend’s flat. But had a funny conversation which just caught me off guard,” she wrote on Mumsnet.
The woman explained she was “lucky” to have “very nice hair”. She shared: “Thanks to my Indian grandmother I have very thick, jet black hair.” She described it as “very long”, just above her waist.
The issue came when her boyfriend said he was “finding it everywhere” after she’d stayed over, asking her to “please wear it in a ponytail”. She wrote: “He didn’t say it rudely. But it’s annoyed me as that’s just part of what comes with having long, dark hair.”
She continued: “I make sure to clear out the drain, and I tie my hair up when cooking. But beyond wearing a hair net there’s no way to prevent strands of hair from being around. It’s just annoyed me that he will play with my hair happily and ‘enjoy’ it in one context but dislikes the realities of it. Is this a red flag? Cause I’m genuinely annoyed. My dad and brothers dealt with it when I was growing up with my sisters who have similar hair.”
In the comments, people were not impressed with the boyfriend’s reaction. One wrote: “Yep red flag and weirdly controlling. Throw this one back into the sea.” Another fumed: “Hahahhaa has he never had a girlfriend? Any woman with medium-length hair will shed hair everywhere, not just someone with your hair. Every boyfriend I’ve ever had has joked about it, never annoyed, it’s a fact of life. I wouldn’t put my hair up for him.”
Others said if he asked “nicely” though, they might agree. Someone wrote: “I think this is ok if he asked nicely and accepts it when you say no. But not if he insists.”
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