One woman has been waiting for her boyfriend to ‘properly’ get down on one knee for more than a decade – even though he technically did pop the question a few years ago
When is the ‘right time’ to propose?
It’s a question that’s long-divided couples all over the world – with some getting hitched a few years after their first meeting, and others saying ‘yes’ in just a matter of weeks.
However, one woman now asserts she’s waited far too long for her boyfriend to ‘properly’ get down on one knee – even though he technically did propose a few years ago. The tricky situation unfolded when a ’32-year-old’ vented about her partner of 10 years, claiming they’ve never had a serious conversation about marriage.
Their relationship has overcome countless trials and tribulations, including long distance issues and Covid-19 restrictions, with the couple frequently moving countries to be with each other. Though, she can’t help but shake the feeling that something’s simply off, as he’s never expressed a big interest in tying the knot.
“After living together for four years and not seeing our families for two (because of Covid), we went to visit both families and everyone started asking me or him (privately), when would we get married,” the woman wrote anonymously on Reddit.
“I answered everyone saying it was not in the plans for now, but reality is, I had not discussed it with him after doing [a] small push two years earlier. I kind of expected him to propose it on that trip, but he didn’t.”
Since then, the woman claims she ‘processed everything’, acknowledging that marriage wouldn’t change anything between them. But she still couldn’t help but feel some ‘resentment’, even though she’d never dreamed of being a bride or hosting a huge wedding.
She continued: “It took him six months after that family trip, in a second family trip, to mention to me over the phone that he was considering proposing. After eight years together, this made me feel a bit down, as he only said it after more people in his family kept asking him, and he expected me to answer… something that seemed to be an indirect proposal, over the phone.
“I told him that ultimately I felt we were married so I didn’t see getting married as a big deal. I definitely made his mind with my comment, and he apparently decided not to do anything.”
Two years have now passed since the ‘indirect proposal’, and although the woman claims she’s happy to be with her partner, she’s struggling to look past this issue. “I am happy to be with him, I love our lives together, but deep inside of I feel a resentment that he never proposed,” she said.
“I feel some resentment, as it seems to me that it was never his priority. Should I move on from this thought?”
Unsurprisingly, the anonymous confession quickly racked up plenty of comments on the platform, with various users claiming that honest communication is the best solution. One concerned user said: “You tell people the opposite of how you’re feeling. I believe you’re scared he will run away if you tell him what you really want. It’s you who has wasted 10 years of your OWN life not truly going after what you want.”
Another added: “You have to tell him what you want. Clearly. Hints are not enough,” as someone else chimed in: “If you want to be married, tell him that. He’s not a mind reader.”
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