A 39-year-old woman has admitted she’s having second thoughts over the future of her relationship after discovering that he lives in a basement flat and has six roommates
Being able to afford somewhere to live is getting more and more expensive, particularly if you live in a city. Rental prices are steadily going up and it’s almost impossible to save up a deposit to buy a home unless you have help from your family.
However, one woman has revealed how she thinks her boyfriend’s current residence is a “deal breaker” for their relationship after learning he lives in his friend’s basement. Wondering if she was overreacting to the circumstances, she shared her dilemma on social media asking what other women her age felt.
Explaining the situation, the 39-year-old shared that she had been dating a 44-year-old man for a while and recently went to his place for the first time. She wrote: “He told me he lived in a basement apartment, but it’s actually in his friend’s home. You have to walk through the house to get to the basement, so he’s basically roommates with a family of six. The kids were putting their bikes in the garage when I got there and it was so damn awkward.”
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Following her visit, she has been left unsure of how she feels as it seems like a ‘red flag’. She went on: “To me, this feels like a deal breaker – he doesn’t have to live there it’s temporary so he can save money, but he’s been there seven years. Some of my friends say I’m being too harsh, some say they’d end it too. Before seeing his living situation I was really into him.
“He has a good job that he loves, friends, can hold a conversation. I know rents are horrible right now, so if he’s actually saving his money to buy a house that’s fantastic, but it felt like a place where a college kid would live.”
People reading the Reddit post were quick to assure her it isn’t as weird as she thinks. One person wrote: “I’m actually pretty impressed that he’s been able to live with six other people and (presumably) maintain good relationships with all of them. Especially if he actually has a sizeable down payment saved up, I’d look favorably upon the ability to make short-term sacrifices for long-term gains.”
But someone else added: “It’s a personal preference in my opinion. I wouldn’t date him, but it’s because I’m a private person and I wouldn’t want to win over a whole ass family to have a relationship. Nor potentially have them in my business regularly. It’s not a judgment though, just personal preference. If I were 20-25 years old I may feel differently.”
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