A woman has been praised after revealing a long list of ‘red flags’ disguised as humour by her boyfriend led to her calling time on their ‘rocky’ relationship
A woman has revealed how a rocky, roller-coaster relationship with her ‘gaslighting, abusive’ boyfriend had led to her leaving him after eight months. After detailing the long list of ‘red flags’ during their short time together, including sending her zoomed in, unflattering pictures of herself, and telling her she was cross-eyed as a child, she admitted that the final straw was when he had doctored an image of her sleeping and sent it to her – denying he had used a filter to make her look much older than she was.
She said: “He sent me a picture of my face sleeping, and I looked so old. It made me self-conscious that that’s what I look like when I sleep and frowning with wrinkles. I ask him what app he used and he says: “No app! That’s what you look like when you sleep.”
However after she returned home and asked to see the picture, he finally admitted he had used a Snapchat age filter, telling her he thought it was funny and that she would laugh about it. However, this wasn’t the first time she had found their humour to be ‘incompatible’ as she listed the other ‘warning signs’ in their relationship that, now she was looking back, made her think she should have left him sooner.
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She said: “One month into our relationship we were showering and casually talking and I ask him a question, and he responds, “…. You F******G W***E!” I was so confused. This sweet thoughtful funny guy was in front of me. Everything froze and I had to go to my bed and explain why that was hurtful and to not do it again. I regret not just breaking up with him then.”
She also told how he had done the same thing again a few months later: “We were showering maybe at the five month mark and he does this again, almost answers a question with “because you’re a f***ing bi***” until he sees my face that basically says: “I dare you to finish that”. He didn’t.”
And while she also added in the redeeming qualities to her relationship revelation on Reddit, readers were raging on her behalf, with one saying: “I put up with this type of behaviour for a lot longer and wish I’d had the sense you have to drawn a line sooner. Also, you did it so eloquently.” Another commented: “It’s a problem that he kept doing this after you had shown, multiple times, that it isn’t your sense of humour,” while one said: “You do not have to put up with that kind of abuse.”
One reader said: “Are you showering together to save water? Or are you wasting water? Seriously though, find someone who is not abusive seems like a rule number 1.” One questioned why she took so long to break up with him, while others wondered if he had a personality disorder: “Girl he sounds so mean and insecure.”
