A mum has had enough of her ‘messy’ daughter who she claims spends all of her money on lavish trips, clothes, and Uber rides but refuses to help out with chores, pay rent, or move out
One woman refuses to leave the nest if it means sacrificing her ‘expensive taste’.
It’s a bittersweet feeling when your youngest child moves out of the family home. Yes, you’ll miss them and all of their annoying yet endearing habits, but you’re happy that they’re creating a life of their own (and can no longer eat all of your food).
However, one single mum says her daughter is wasting all of her money on lavish holidays, Uber rides, and clothes – and doesn’t plan on getting her own place anytime soon. Despite having a ‘good paid job’, the mum claims her daughter doesn’t help with the housework and ‘leaves her mess everywhere’.
Taking to Mumsnet, the anonymous parent claims her daughter doesn’t help around the house at all – refusing to load the washing machine, wash up her dishes, or buy food at the supermarket. “I’m shattered and she stresses me out!” she wrote.
“I’ve always felt that one day she should contribute to the home she lives in as this is part of her maturing and becoming financially responsible. She leaves lights on, plug sockets switched on with no device attached, wastes food, takes long showers, so last month I said it’s only fair she contributes 50 per cent for energy bills. But now I feel she should pay a little rent too. I want her to know the value of money and feel pride for her achievements.”
However, the mum says her daughter ‘begrudges’ paying rent but doesn’t want to move out. “She feels I’m mean for asking her to move out or request money for the home she lives in,” the post reads. “I love her, but feel I’m starting to resent her being home and her levels of selfishness are impacting me.”
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More than 100 users flocked to the comments section to share their thoughts, with many slamming the daughter’s behaviour and condemning the mum for letting her ‘get away with it’. “You are doing her no favours allowing her a free ride like this, it’s not as if she is saving or using her money wisely – and she isn’t even grateful!” one person wrote. “Of course she should be paying into the house, and doing her share of household chores.”
Another agreed, commenting: “You have given your daughter a completely skewed view of adulthood. She should have been using this time to save aggressively for her own home. This is such a key time and it has just been wasted.” While a third added: “You say she’s lovely but she sounds a disgrace, to be honest. But [it] sounds like you’ve enabled it.”
Many users all agreed the daughter should start contributing 50 per cent of all bills, including things like Council Tax, and start helping around the house. “I would charge her 3/4 of the going rate of what she’d be paying per month all inclusive of bills to live with one person,” one user suggested. “Where I live that would be £600, in London that would be double. Check out the SpareRoom website linked above and tell her to take her chances in the real world if she doesn’t like your ultimatum.”
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