A woman has been left ‘disgusted’ after finding out her 22-year-old daughter has been secretly dating her 42-year-old family friend for six months – and she’s known him since she was a child
Parents always worry about their kids, even when they’re grown up, especially when it comes to who they’re going out with. One mum and dad were shocked when they discovered their 22-year-old daughter, Liv, was secretly seeing a family friend who was double her age.
Mum Jean* shared on Reddit: “I found out my daughter is sleeping with my friend who she’s known since she was seven. I’m 43 years old and I have a 22-year-old daughter, Liv. My good friend, Adam, 42, has known my daughter since she was seven years old. He would even babysit her for me and my husband Steven, 46. We’re both disgusted and outraged.”
Liv’s mum and dad discovered their secret at her birthday party after noticing how close the two were. She added: “I found out three weeks ago when my daughter hosted a party to celebrate her birthday. She said she wanted to do one day with her friends and then the next with her family. She even took it upon herself to invite Adam, which confused me because I didn’t give her his contact info. I noticed they were awfully close with each other and it even made me uncomfortable.”
But when the couple started to show more affection, Jean and Steven were furious. She said: “The final straw was when I saw him caress the back of her shoulder, and then I confronted her in private about this. She said that her and Adam had been seeing each other for about six months now. I was extremely angry and reminded her that she has known this man since she was a child.”
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“Then she further went on to say she was an adult and could make her own decisions. I stormed out and I cussed out Adam for even thinking this was alright. He fired back saying that she was capable of deciding what she wants. My husband got into the argument almost causing a fight to break out. My husband and I left feeling ashamed of what had happened.”
Jean confessed that Liv has not spoken to her parents for weeks, and she worries she is a “bad mother” for not noticing the romance sooner. The Reddit post ended with: “It’s now been three weeks and my daughter is still refusing to speak to me.”
“I will not forgive Adam because I feel as if I don’t truly know how long they have been messing around. For all I know she may have lied about the six months and they could have had this going on since she was underage. The thought of it makes my stomach turn because if it is true, why didn’t I notice.”
“Everything was fine before I found this out and my daughter was a very well-behaved child. I wouldn’t have never imagined this. I feel as if I am a bad mother because what if there were signs she and him were involved while she was still a teenager? I do not know what to do and how to move forward from this.”
Fellow Reddit users echoed the parents’ thoughts and feared there were ominous intentions from Adam. One commented: “He was touching her when he knew the parents could see. My bet is he wanted this blow up to happen. Why? Familial alienation, and/or he enjoys messing with people’s heads and emotions.”
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Other Redditers warned of “paedophilic” or “grooming” tendencies in Adam, as one commented: “The grooming aspect of this relationship is glaring.”
Another person agreed, saying: “I cannot understate just how creepy this is. He’s known her since she was a little kid. I wonder if he’s been grooming her this whole time. Because no normal adult man looks at a person he’s known since she was in single digits and goes, ‘Yeah I’d like to hook-up with that.’ It’s disturbing and disgusting. That being said, this isn’t something you can do anything about. By trying to press your will and break them up, you’re only going to succeed in pushing them closer together. The best and only thing you can do in a situation like this is keep your mouth shut about their relationship and let her know you’re there for her if she ever needs help or support.”
*Please note, names have been changed for this article.
