After mutually agreeing a ‘special’ venue for their forthcoming wedding, a bride-to-be was has been left in shock after learning her fiancé married his first wife there too
A bride-to-be has admitted to feelings of confusion over her forthcoming wedding’s venue – the same place her fiancé married his first wife.
Although the location was mutually agreed upon six months ago owing to it being “special” to the pair, now the woman can’t help but worry after discovering snaps of her partner’s previous big day. “I’ve just found out that his wedding to his first wife was in the same place, having stumbled across an old wedding photo of his,” she penned in Mumsnet’s Relationships forum.
She continued: “It must have been a special place for him and his ex-wife too! I haven’t mentioned it as I don’t know if I’m wrong in thinking it is strange to choose the same venue?”
Following her appeal for advice, the woman was inundated with scores of replies from fellow Mumsnet users all with the same stance. “I think it’s a bit strange,” one person began. “The people on his side will probably find it a bit odd I think. I wouldn’t like to have photos taken knowing that there will be ones in the exact same spot with the first wife. That might just be me though. It will be hard for others not to compare the two weddings I think, if they also went to the first one.”
Another recalled: “Yes. I know someone who did this. All the family and friends on his side were the same. It was like deja vu. And somehow made the wedding vows sound less sincere as he had literally stood in the exact same spot making the same promises to someone else.
“To make matters worse, his second wife had the same first name as his first wife and afterwards took his surname. So same first name, same surname, same venue, same guests. Very strange.”
Others questioned how the location hadn’t come in conversation in the past, as a third person suggested: “Very strange. Presumably some of the guests will have been invited to both – that on its own would be enough for me not to want this.”
Whilst a fourth explained it could be innocently put down to the groom’s lack of imagination. “I think he’s probably just unimaginative,” they penned. “I think it’s weird and wrong but I can imagine loads of men thinking, oh that was a decent enough place, may as well use it again.”
The original poster later returned to the thread – grateful for the response and ready to take action. “Thank you so much for all your quick responses,” she said. “Not just me then, I’m going to have to talk to him about it.”
She added: “From what I can see he and his first wife got married in a different building in the same garden. The photo backdrops would be the same as it’s obviously the same garden. I think (Hope) the reception venue is also different, but I’m not sure, I’ll need to ask him.”
