A man was left feeling ‘sad’ after he found out what his fiancée had confessed about him behind his back – and rather than focusing on the compliment, he honed in on the negative
When you’re with your best friends and having a few drinks, you may get a little loose-lipped and say things that you come to regret – but when one man heard his fiancée’s sex confession, he was left mortified.
The 27-year-old man had been engaged to his partner for a year, and had been in a relationship with her for five years before that – so when he heard a secret she’d spilled about him, rather than focusing on the good she’d said, he was hyper-fixated on the “confession”.
He said that he felt “stung” about what she’d revealed to her pals about him, saying that he “felt sad and felt like s**t”, and even called the engagement off because of her words.
Taking to Reddit, he explained how things unfolded. He wrote: “I (27M) have been engaged to my fiancee Amy (26F) for a year, and was in a relationship with her for 5 years. We were due to be married this August. Now, I am also friends with Kiley (26F). We have been friends for a very long time, pretty much since we were babies, and we’re almost like siblings at this point, because her mother and my mother were best friends since they were in high school.
“Anyways, Kiley is part of the same tight-knit friend group as Amy. I always try to ask Kiley what Amy tells about me because I know women like to discuss their boyfriends with their friend group. Kiley is usually tight-lipped but if she does say anything, she always says how Amy loves me a lot, and how Amy is so excited about marriage.
“Last month, I hung out with Kiley and her boyfriend at their house. Amy and I usually hang out with them for dinners, but Amy had gone out of town for a couple of days. Anyway, we all got pretty drunk and were laughing a lot and I was begging Kiley to tell me one bad thing Amy had told about me to her friends.”
This was where things went downhill, as it was revealed “Amy had joked about she had better sex before”, and her partner at the minute was “not the greatest at sex”, but she was with him “for the complete package” so she “doesn’t care about sex too much”. He said that the confession “stung”. Afterwards, he “thought about it a lot”, and decided to ask Amy about it casually, but she “initially denied it”.
He continued: “She said we always have amazing sex, and she’s always satisfied. I told her it really wouldn’t hurt me if she told me the truth, and marriage was built on honesty, so I asked her again a couple of times. Amy finally admitted that she did in fact say that I was not the best at sex to her friend group, but she was just joking about it because I had so many other great qualities she wanted to highlight.
“I laughed it off initially, but that stung me even more. I couldn’t hide my mood for the next couple of days. I felt sad and felt like s**t. Amy apologised a lot, and said she did not mean what she said. A couple of days later, I told Amy I could no longer be with her, and what she told her friend group hurt me too much.
“I informed everyone over the next week that I was calling off the wedding. Amy was distraught and tried to convince me multiple times and apologised a lot. But I was too mentally downtrodden. Was I wrong for calling off the engagement and breaking up with Amy?”
In the comments, many said the man was in the wrong and he’d thrown away a good relationship for no reason other than his pride. One wrote: “I’ve been married for almost 20 years and our sex life is so much better now than at the beginning because we grew old together, we build trust in each other every day and he came with the best qualities for a long life together.
“Sex is the moment, hormones, a learnable ability. Love and a wonderful person are so much more important. If she doesn’t feel that you are all that, go and learn what she likes. She is better without you, no woman needs to marry a child.”
Another fumed: “Bro, that woman didn’t say anything bad about you. Just admit that she’s asked you to do better at sex and you freaked out and didn’t listen to her. You’re the a**hole! Glad she dodged a bullet because you really don’t deserve her being a good woman to you.”
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