Money is a subject of contentious in many relationships. But how far would you go to help a new partner in dire need of some cash? One 28-year-old has asked for advice on his tricky dilemma
A dater confessed that his girlfriend’s accident has cast doubt on their relationship – and it’s certainly triggered some reaction online.
It’s no secret that money is a contentious subject in many relationships. For some, having a man pay the most is what’s ‘traditionally right’ to do, while others say it’s only fair to split everything 50/50.
Now, a ’28-year-old’ claims he’s unsure his partner is ‘The One’ after a huge car crash that will certainly break the bank. Before delving into his story, the anonymous man explained that he actually met his girlfriend on holiday around a year ago.
Despite the distances between them, they continued texting and calling, before the girlfriend was granted a ‘working holiday visa’, so they could spend time together in the man’s home country. During this time, he realised she had some ‘really great qualities and a lovely personality’, but a tragic crash seemed to flip this upside down.
“Recently there has been an absolute disaster,” he explained on Reddit. “She was driving her uninsured vehicle, and has had a collision with another car. I suspect she’ll be found to be at fault and required to replace the car (could be $15,000+ [£11,800+]). The car she was driving has also been destroyed.”
The man claims his girlfriend is from a ‘poorer country’ and has no assets or ‘career/earning potential’, even though she seems quite hard-working. As a result, there is practically no way she could afford the damage costs and the Redditor has now been asked to loan some money.
“A ‘sugar daddy’-esque relationship is not very appealing to me,” he continued. “If I put myself in her shoes, the situation will be dire if someone does not help her I definitely feel some responsibility and pressure to bail her out.
“She is in this country now because of me. She is a good person and I really don’t want her to suffer for this. I don’t think I can just walk away from it.
“On the other hand, I’m a responsible person and would never make such a mistake myself. I would feel a bit resentful making this sacrifice and buying a stranger a car due to being drawn into someone else’s mistake.”
Amid this, he pleaded advice, adding: “Situation is f***ed, what’s the right thing to do?”
Unsurprisingly, the anonymous post has since garnered a wave of attention on Reddit, with many users quick to suggest that it’s time to end the relationship. One person wrote: “You want to break up. Just rip the band aid off. The way you see her is already very resentful and the resentment will only increase,” as someone else chimed in: “You’ll be gifting the money, not loaning it.”
Meanwhile, another added: “Being a nice person doesn’t acquit you from consequences. Her being here because of you doesn’t mean that everything that she does is your responsibility. she is an adult, who made a stupid decision and should accept the consequences for it.”
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