A heartbroken 35-year-old woman has shared the cautionary tale of her husband’s much younger, secret crush, after eight years of marriage together. He’s made a blunt confession
A heartbroken woman has opened up about her husband’s much younger secret crush – and she’s unsure what to do next.
From Miller’s Girl to Notes on a Scandal, the controversial trope of students falling for their teachers is certainly not a new one. And now, one 35-year-old has spoke out about her husband’s much younger, ‘doll-like’ crush, after eight years of marriage together.
Before delving into her story, the heartbroken 35-year-old explained that she and her partner had met at university and quickly fell in love. In 2020, they welcomed a baby girl into their family and everything appeared to be going smoothly.
But this all came crashing down in December, when a friend noticed something fishy. “My husband is a professor at this med school (he’s a doctor himself),” the anonymous woman wrote on Reddit.
“Few months back, Sarah took me out for lunch and told me that she suspected something’s going on between my husband and this med student [25-year-old female]. She claimed she’d seen both of them give ‘yearning looks’ to each other.”
While the woman tried to laugh this off, Sarah insisted that ‘she’d never seen him talk to any other woman like this’, having been so aloof for all the years she’d known him. “It’s like watching a slow burn romance movie,” Sarah apparently said, adding: “She looks at him like he’s Brad Pitt and he looks at her the way he used to look at you.”
It were these words that stung, the woman said, who smiled it off but went home and ‘casually’ mentioned it to her husband. And while she expected him to profusely deny this, he just simply didn’t. “He looked at me, all teary eyed, and said ‘I’m sorry… I can’t get her out of my mind. I’ve tried, trust me. I should’ve told you sooner. But I thought I could save our relationship, I really wanted to’.”
Her husband denied cheating and claimed that he didn’t have any contact with the 25-year-old outside of college. But the ‘yearning looks’ had started when she wrote him a letter in 2022, confessing that she loved him. It’s said he turned this down, acknowledging it would be an abuse of power, but that didn’t put an end his crush.
“He completely understood how morally depraved it is to try and pursue a relationship with a student,” she added. “I honestly don’t remember how I reacted then. I think I just started packing and came to live with my parents along with my daughter.”
With their relationship now over, her ex only comes by to spend time with their daughter, and nobody dares to mention the elephant in the room. “I keep checking that girl’s social media,” the woman confessed.
“She’s insanely beautiful, almost doll like, and intelligent. I can’t help but think that someone like him should be with someone like her. He’s always been very good looking and I’m more of a plain Jane. She’s the Meredith to his Derek.”
This devastating admission has since racked up hundreds of comments, with many quick to label her partner a ‘dumb***’ who got caught up in a ‘bad soap opera’ fantasy. One person wrote: “The fact that he never came to talk to you to fix your marriage means he’s checked out.”
Another added: “He created a Romeo’s and Juliet scenario – complete with forlorn love sick puppy eyes at each other.”
Meanwhile, some argued that having crushes on other people in a marriage is normal. This can even include ‘micro-cheating’, which generally involves subtle breaches of trust in a relationship – whether it be ‘yearning looks’ or flirty behaviour.
One person said: “I remember that a psychologist friend of mine at some point told me that it’s normal to have crushes on someone else even if you are married. The important thing is whether you act on it or not. If you don’t they will fade in time.”
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