Having one child is hard work but imagine having a young baby and an immature husband taking up your time. A woman has reached out for support after her spouse admitted he thinks their kid is ‘ruining his life’
Having a baby is a lot of hard work. There are sleepless nights, constant worrying about them, and the inevitable strain they can put on relationships. However, you also get to experience joy and love like never before.
A new mum has revealed how she was left distraught when her husband admitted he isn’t happy and feels their 15-month-old baby is “ruining” his life. Utterly devastated and wondering how to proceed after this confession, she shared the story on social media for support.
She wrote: “I feel absolutely sick. I have a feeling in my stomach I’ve never experienced before. My 15mo sleeps on a floor bed in our room. I was laying down with her putting her to sleep. She was falling asleep but tossing and turning, and hit her head on my head and started crying.
“My husband burst in the room and said ‘all she does is scream every night’ (she does not), and then proceeded to say ‘she’s ruining my life’ and then threw himself into bed. He doesn’t do anything with our toddler. I 100% take care of her needs.
“I even solo parented her entire first year because he was out of town for work for nearly a year (before anyone says he’s cheating, it’s highly unlikely, he’s a union millwright and I know he works 80 hours a week, I have access to all his accounts across literally everything, and he’s honestly too lazy).
“I have never had any sort of help with her, I do not live near family nor do I have friends, so it’s been me and her since she was born, she’s with me every minute of every day. He’s also been upset about me not being pregnant already again, specifically with a boy, as if I can just choose what gender my body grows (seriously wtf?).
“Why the hell would I want another child when I’m already barely hanging on with one I already have on my own with no help from anyone. I don’t even know why I’m on here saying all this.
“I don’t have anyone to say this to and I feel absolutely wrecked and sick and alone that those words would come out of his mouth. She’s a very well behaved, quiet, extremely smart, funny, beautiful toddler. I’m just beyond words right now. I don’t know what to do or what to say to him.”
People reading the heart-breaking Reddit post were at a loss for words. One person shared: “Your husband is ruining your toddler’s life… as well as your own. He might not be having an affair, but he’s garbage in about ten other ways. Please don’t have another child with him.”
Someone else asked: “Can you move back in with family for a bit? Let him take care of himself and you regain sanity. Should help a reality check all around.” And another user replied: “Do you want to stay with him? It doesn’t sound like you are happy. It sounds like he is struggling with something and blaming you. He sounds awful.”
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