One wife took to Reddit to see what other people thought after admitting she was left hurt by the fact that her husband doesn’t acknowledge their marriage on his social media account
A woman has sought advice after admitting her husband ‘refuses to acknowledge’ their marriage on social media.
The wife took to Reddit to see what other people thought after admitting she was left hurt over the situation. She said her and her husband had been married for years. However, despite being active on social media, he doesn’t ever post anything about her.
Writing on the site, she said: “My husband and I have been married for four years, together about eight. It hasn’t always gone smoothly, to be expected we got married pretty young. High school sweethearts or whatever.
“Recently I’ve noticed that he posts about his time in the military, his car, the places he’s been to (sometimes)… but never even a hint of being married. Maybe he did before… I can’t remember.”
The woman continued: “Anyways, this made me frustrated… and I’m petty. So I made my status on Facebook single to see if he’d notice, and admittedly to get a rise out of him. I should clarify, I’m not really active, so I know people don’t really pay attention to my posts, besides my Facebook is strictly for family.
“He pointed it out and refused to like anything I posted afterwards. I told him if he wanted me to not seem single online, then he shouldn’t either (I know this sounds childish, bare with me here). It was only up for a day then I [changed] it.
“Today I added that I was married and asked him to do the same. He said: ‘No I’m not doing that. I don’t want to put that information out for China to find out.'”
The wife was furious, reminding her husband that he already puts a lot of information on Facebook and asks him who he was ‘hiding his marriage from’. Her husband still refused to post about their marriage online, however.
The woman then revealed more information, saying she’d gone through her husband’s phone and seen his ex-girlfriend had been in touch.
She explained: “Recently I went through his phone and saw he was in contact with his ex-girlfriend from middle school. This girl used to be my best friend growing up – she’s how we met. They broke up in middle school and after a few weeks, broke up but stayed friends.
“For months afterwards, she tried to hook me up with him, but even as a kid I thought that was weird. But he spent three years trying to woo me, so I gave him a chance and we dated on and off in high school.
“This made my friend so mad and it was part of the reason we fell off. Fast forward to now, I heard about her talking sh*t about me through the years… but just brushed it off since she was dismissive of me when I tried to reconcile with her a few years back.”
Despite not wanting to be friends with her, the woman said her former friend talked to her husband while he was deployed and they were going through a ‘rough patch’ in their marriage. She said: “They spoke about the old days and how much they loved each other and missed each other and how they would see each other when ever he was in town again.”
The wife admitted she was heartbroken and upset that her husband was ‘fraternising with the enemy’.
She concluded: “So, do you see my dilemma here, I don’t know what to do. Other than social media, we are good. He is kind and respectful and gives me all the princess treatment… but this makes me feel like I should be worried? I need some input please.”
Since being shared on Reddit, the post has made its way over to X (formerly Twitter), where someone wrote: “He doesn’t want his marriage to interfere in his dating game.”
The X post has since gone viral – racking up more than 178,000 views. And many were quick to have their say as people called the husband a “red flag”.
One person warned: “That’s one long red flag factory of a post. Also, DON’T MARRY YOUR HIGH SCHOOL SWEETHEART!!!!! Yes, sometimes it works out, but the majority of AITA posts about bad marriages include some variation of the phrase ‘we got married really young’.”
Meanwhile someone else agreed, writing: “He doesn’t have his marriage status on social media because he doesn’t want potential partners to know he’s not single. This is a RED FLAG girl!”
A third also concurred, saying: “Yeah, he’s trying to date.” While a fourth chimed in: “Oh he’s definitely cheating or trying to cheat.
