Would you ever intervene in the way someone cleans their house? One parent-to-be claims they are completely torn over the ‘gross and unsafe’ behaviour of their in-laws
A married couple are at the centre of a tricky situation, after stumbling upon something disgusting in their in-laws house.
Cleanliness is a point of contention among many families. Perhaps you’re always moaning at your partner to pick up the laundry, or can’t bear to be nagged about dishes for the third time this week.
But now, one parent-to-be doesn’t even want their child inside their family’s home, after claiming that it’s utterly ‘gross’ and even ‘unsafe’. Divulging the details on Reddit, the anonymous user explained that it all started when her in-laws became ‘wannabe backyard breeders’, living in a home with lots of small dogs.
And before you suggest this sounds like a rather cute setup – they claimed it was nothing of the sort. “[My] husband grew up in a home with lots of small dogs constantly pooping/peeing on the floor,” they wrote on the platform.
“Met him in high school and was absolutely shocked by how disgusting it was when I would come over, entire house reeked of urine/faeces. He knew it was gross but didn’t fully grasp how out of the norm it was. His room was always clean.”
Although the in-laws have now stopped breeding dogs, the situation hasn’t exactly improved much over the years. Everywhere except the kitchen is said to be covered in a thick layer of dust – with one chair in particular apparently piling on ‘1/4 inch’.
But this isn’t even the worst of it, with her husband one day stumbling upon something beyond belief. They continued: “We got married and moved across the country shortly after high school. We visit once a year for a couple of days and stay in a hotel…
“On the most recent visit my husband couldn’t hold it and went pee. When we left he said it was the worst bathroom he had ever seen in person. There was so much build up of grime/dirt in the sink that it was unusable, the toilet was covered in excrement, the shower looked about the same. He said it looked like a homeless camp bathroom.”
Now, the Redditor is completely torn. A new baby will soon be on the way, and bringing them into this environment doesn’t exactly bring them joy. But how do you talk to someone about the way they keep their own home?
“I don’t even know how to go about addressing this with them or even if we should,” they said. ” honestly don’t even like my in laws, I feel like they didn’t ever prioritise my husband or take care of him in anyway other than providing a roof over his head.
“Yet he is an only child and will be burdened with taking care of them. They are in their 60s but don’t take care of themselves at all so that time will come soon. I just don’t know how to get the message across that we don’t want to bring our new baby to such a gross house.
“We have repeatedly tried to buy plane tickets to come visit us instead of us visit them but they won’t do it.”
Unsurprisingly, the anonymous post was quick to rack up plenty of comments online, with various users suggesting it’s better to be honest about issues like this. One person wrote: “So, the beautiful thing about becoming a parent is that you don’t need to ask permission to decide for your kids.
“You tell your in-laws that you won’t be bringing your newborn at their place, because it is unhealthy.” Another added: “Husband should be telling them anything. I have a feeling that once he does say that you aren’t coming, they will clean up their act.”
However, others suggested that telling white lies could help avoid an uncomfortable conversation. One advised: “We’re not going to be travelling with the baby for quite a while. You’ll have to come to us!’ is a good way to postpone the inevitable discussion.”
Another said: “You guys can start saying that travel with a baby is difficult so for the foreseeable future they are welcome to visit you but you will no longer be making the trip and go from there.”
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