A teenager is seeking advice after revealing how her mum has been aggressively mocking her for being a virgin and not having a boyfriend, while she boasts about having two children by aged 18
There’s nothing wrong with being a virgin – whether you’re not ready to have sex, haven’t met the right person, or have no interest in sharing your body with someone else. Knowing this, one 18-year-old has taken to Reddit for advice after revealing how her mum mocks her at every opportunity she gets for being a virgin and not having a boyfriend.
She shared how her mum boasts about losing her virginity in her early teens – and already had two children by the age of 18. She said on Reddit: “I’m 18 and I’m still a virgin, which I would be okay with if my mum, 35, didn’t make fun of me for it. It seems like every conversation we have, she manages to mock me for still being a virgin and never having a boyfriend. It makes me so embarrassed.
“She often reminds me that my older sister, 20, was a lot younger than me when she had her first relationship. Or she’ll bring up the fact that she was pregnant with me at only 17, and had my sister at 15.”
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She went on to explain how her mum has been mocking her about her virginity since she was 16 years old – and makes jokes about her not being desirable. She added: “She even made a joke that I’m ‘past my sell-by-date’. I’m just so tired of her treating me like I’m some ancient withered-up woman when I’m only 18.
“I’ve asked her to stop, and she apologised. But then soon later she started making fun of me again.” Seeking advice, she added: “I don’t know how to stop her from doing this, but I still love her a lot and don’t want to ruin our relationship. Any advice?”
Commenting on her post, one user said: “Despicable behaviour on your mothers part. Likely she needs to perpetuate the behaviours that she succumbed to at an early age to make herself feel better about her choices.
“Educate yourself and make choices that you are happy with and never do anything either in or out of a relationship that you are not entirely prepared for, or comfortable with. I am sorry you are having to listen to this nonsense.”
Another user added: “Sounds like your mum is jealous that you’re making better decisions for your own life than she did at your age. She feels that if she pushes the same pattern of behavior towards sex onto her daughters that it will validate her choices.”
A third user said: “I lost my virginity at 20 or 21, just wanted to get it over with, and looking back I wish I had waited longer because it wasn’t with anyone I cared about and it was just a bad time. What I’m getting at, is don’t do it just because, do it when it’s right for you. Not your mum.”
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