A woman is having second thoughts about her relationship because her partner won’t stop talking about another woman – he has even called her ‘insecure’ for being upset about it
Hearing your partner gush over another person is enough to make anyone feel wary.
Even if you know your partner isn’t cheating on you, hearing them talk so highly of someone else can still knock your confidence. That’s exactly the situation one woman is facing as her boyfriend of four years recently made a new friend at work – and now won’t stop talking about his mate’s girlfriend.
The anonymous mum – who has one child with her partner – said the other woman is “wealthy” and drives a Lamborghini, flies first class on holiday, and splashes out on the latest tech. While she’s confident that her boyfriend wouldn’t be unfaithful, she still feels “rattled” by his obsession with the other woman’s riches.
Taking to Mumsnet, she wrote: “It doesn’t usually bother me what other people have as such, but my partner has taken to bringing up this woman and her wealth/what she has/what they are doing several times a week, which I think is excessive and more than just passing conversation, especially as I don’t know her and she’s no one really to our life.
“It’s stuff like ‘Oh there’s a such and such car, that’s the same colour as Brian’s girlfriend’s car’ … ‘Can you believe Brian’s girlfriend has so and so’ … ‘Oh did I tell you Brian’s girlfriend got a new fancy watch’ … ‘Oh hey look there’s a Lamborghini on TV like Brian’s girlfriend has’ … ‘Did you know Brian’s girlfriend has bought them first class tickets to so and so’. Yes, I do know as you’ve mentioned it 25 times this week!”
The woman has asked her partner if there’s a reason he keeps mentioning the other woman, but he has told her he can “talk about this lady as much as he wants” and if it’s making her feel “odd” then it’s just because she’s “insecure”.
She added: “I don’t have any gut feeling her likes her … but maybe all the banging on about it has rattled me and made me feel that he’d like someone more like her, as in with things and that provide that lifestyle, which I certainly can’t. He also made a comment along the lines of ‘Well Brian held out long enough and met someone great who can provide’. I asked what he meant and he said Brian didn’t settle until he found someone ‘really good.'”
Commenters on the post were sympathetic to the woman’s feelings. While many reassured her that it doesn’t sound as though her boyfriend has any intention of being unfaithful, they did state his obsession with her money was “annoying”.
One person wrote: “Normally I’d say anyone constantly mentioning someone of the opposite sex probably fancies them. But in this case, I think it’s the money he’s obsessed with rather than her. Still annoying but I’d just blank him out, the same as if he was banging on about religion or politics.”
Another added: “Your boyfriend sounds as though he has the maturity of a 15 year old. If you were banging on and on about some wealthy bloke you know, I guarantee he wouldn’t like it one little bit.”
