A woman has shared her heartbreak at being cut from her sister’s wedding over family drama involving their mum. She described it as ‘humiliating’ and ‘deeply distressing’
Getting uninvited from something as important as a sibling’s wedding is heartbreaking.
Deciding who gets an invite to your wedding is entirely your choice, and nobody has to invite certain family members if they don’t feel comfortable having them there. However, inviting someone and then revoking that invitation later is often seen as a bad move, and can lead to fractured relationships.
That’s exactly the situation one woman claimed to have found herself in, after she was asked by her sister to not only attend her upcoming wedding, but actually officiate it. Just a few months later, however, the woman has been completely axed from the ceremony – all because of past drama she has with her mum.
In a post on Netmums, the woman said she hasn’t been in contact with her parents for the past 14 years because they cut her off and wouldn’t give her a reason why. They also “refused any contact” with her son, who was 10 at the time, and the woman insisted she “never got an answer” as to why.
The woman is still in contact with her siblings and was asked to officiate her sister’s upcoming wedding. There was thought to be no issues involving her parents as her dad is facing “ill health” and her mum has social anxiety, so neither of them were planning to attend.
However, her parents now said they will be going to their daughter’s wedding – and demanded their other child be axed from the ceremony.
She shared: “My parents then decided they wanted to go meaning I was dropped from officiating their wedding which I viewed as cruel and was deeply distressing. Not only was I dropped but my mother demanded that our paths must not cross. This meant that my son, husband and myself were uninvited to the ceremony.”
The woman and her family were invited to the reception after the ceremony, but she felt so “humiliated” by the drama that she turned down the offer and now won’t be attending her sister’s wedding at all.
“I don’t understand why we can’t just go and be civil with each other. We don’t need to have any conversation, we are just there to celebrate her wedding,” she added. “I am now also being invited to her hen and again I find this embarrassing, why would I go to her hen when I’m not invited to her wedding? Both my sisters do not understand my response and it’s fair to say they are angry with me. They are the only family I have left.”
Commenters on the post urged the woman to “know her own worth” and stick to her guns about not attending.
One person said: “I just wouldn’t go. Your sister made her choice and I would just accept that. Hard I know but know your own worth.” And another added: “I understand your frustration and hurt. Families can be very challenging and if you’ve never experienced anything like this it’s hard for people to understand.
“I wouldn’t go anywhere near the hen party or the wedding to be constantly on edge and them not even validating your feelings. It’s really hurtful and not acceptable.”
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