***WARNING DISTRESSING CONTENT*** A man has taken to social media to explain how he is feeling after discovering his sister has undergone her seventh stillbirth – and says he is terrified she will die trying to have a baby
A man has shared his turmoil after his sister suffered her seventh stillbirth, leaving him feeling a mix of emotions. In a heart-wrenching post, Ben* expressed his anger and concern for his sister, Lucy*, who he describes as the most selfless and loving person he knows, and who has been like a second mother to him and their siblings.
Ben’s post on social media read: “My sister is my favorite sibling. Easily the single most selfless and loving human being I have ever known. She is a second mother to me and all our other siblings. Myself and her are the rock of a 7 child family. All my other siblings including me have at least one child. Save for the younger ones in college.”
He detailed Lucy’s tragic journey, revealing that she has endured multiple pregnancies over the past eight years, all ending in loss: “The closest one was three weeks to nine months. A day before they could remove her to put her in the NICU, she died. My sister found out when she went for the procedure. All of the babies have died after six months so she has always had to push out corpses.”
Ben also highlighted the strength of Lucy’s marriage despite the repeated tragedies: “Her husband is the most supportive man I know. Despite all this, their marriage is incredibly strong and stable. They are one and the same. He has stood by her through it all.”
“Now, the second to last time she lost a child, I sat her down and told her that she should consider surrogacy. I went ahead and spoke to some facilities and even got an available surrogate that I both knew and trusted. I offered to foot half the bill. She told me to hang on and that she had seen another doctor that assured her this time round it will work. It didn’t.”, reports the Mirror US.
After the heartbreaking news of the baby’s passing, Lucy decided to take a break from trying for a child and focus on other aspects of life. Ben continued: “Lucy has done everything you can imagine. From seeing experts to herbal medicine to f—— voodoo. And NOTHING seems to cure the issue.”
“The causes have ranged from her having hypertension to difficulties caused by previous losses. Her eggs are healthy but declining. Her husband is in good health too. They have never drunk or smoked and don’t drink or eat processed stuff. And somehow the babies keep dying.”
“I am angry because I am afraid she will die. Some doctors have told her this. She and her husband want the pride of making a ‘real’ baby. One that is 100% theirs. They don’t see surrogacy as a real baby. Their f—— pride is going to take my sister from me.”
Ben has shockingly discovered that his sister Lucy suffered her seventh stillbirth, yet he’s been unable to reach out to her. He confessed: “I don’t know what to say to her. I haven’t called her yet. I don’t want to. She hid this pregnancy from me. I found out from my other siblings after it died at seven months.”
He expressed his inner turmoil, saying: “I know how selfish I seem, that I care for my feelings more than hers but I have failed to make her see reason and it is f****** with me heavily. I have been there through it all. I have financed thousands of dollars worth of medical trips, vacations for mental health and everything in between.”
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Despite the emotional strain, Ben remains supportive, offering a financial solution: “She has a very well-paying job and can afford a surrogate. And I am willing to go halfway for her to achieve this. I will foot that bill. She just has to agree. But she just doesn’t f******* budge. I love her beyond words. But when I got the news, I wasn’t sad or shocked. Just plain angry.”
The heart-wrenching story on Reddit left users divided on whether Ben should intervene or respect his sister’s autonomy over her body. Sympathetic responses poured in, with one person commenting: “I’m so sorry. She’s wrapped so much of her personal identity into being a mother on her own power it doesn’t seem like she can let go of that dream. How devastating.”
If you have been affected by this story, advice and support can be found at the Miscarriage Association. You can call them on 01924 200799 or email [email protected]
If you are pregnant or a new mother and you are in crisis, the National Maternal Mental Health Hotline provides free, confidential support 24/7 in English and Spanish. Call or text the hotline at 1-833-TLC-MAMA (1-833-852-6262).
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