This husband has opened up about the face he and his wife have not had sex of been affectionate towards each other in two years – as he claimed his wife has changed and become ambitious about her career and nothing will stop her
A husband says his wife has “ruined” his life due to the lack of sex in their relationship – which he blames her career ambitions.
The 43-year-old says he and his wife tied the knot six years ago after meeting and working together in a car showroom. However, he says his 39-year-old partner has changed in the years since their honeymoon phase while working together and their goals are not as aligned as they once were.
Confessing his feelings, the husband admitted when they got married, the couple wanted the same things – a house and family – but he now claims his wife has changed and has become a lot more career-focused on her job as a teacher and thinks he’s “married the wrong person”.
He wrote anonymously to Dear Deirdre and revealed: “I feel trapped with my wife, I married the wrong person and now she’s ruined my life.” The desperate husband said that since being married his wife had done a degree and was currently doing a master’s degree. He praised her for her “high aspirations” and that there was no stopping her as she dreamt of becoming a headteacher at a secondary school.
He revealed that the couple hadn’t been intimate for two years and added: “We’ve not had sex for two years and there is zero affection.” Having discussed the matter with his wife has told him he should have married someone who didn’t want a career.
The husband also claimed she told him to “look elsewhere” if he wanted sex or intimacy in the relationship. However, he divulged that his current partner is the only woman he has ever been with. He admitted he’s desperate to start a family, but is worried “it’s too late to find somebody else” and further shared he’s worried that his current wife would clean him out if he were to consider divorce.
Responding to the very sad predicament the husband found himself in, Deidre advised the man he had reached a “stalemate” about starting a family and having children with his current partner. However, she told the concerned 43-year-old it wasn’t too late to start over again with someone else. Deidre also advised that the couple go to a counsellor if they want to stay together as they are both unhappy at the moment and talking about different ambitions.
Have you got a story to share? We want to hear all about it. Email us at [email protected].
