Cheating behaviour revealed in tell-tale ‘clear’ signs as private investigator lays secrets bare and how betrayal ‘takes its toll’
A relationship expert has revealed the three stages of cheating to look out for and how to ‘spot the signs at each stage’. Perhaps your partner is acting a little off, or doing new things that have left you flummoxed, well a private investigator has said it’s ‘easy’ to tell if they are cheating in each stage of the betrayal.
When people think of cheating partners, they might think of late-night secret messages or shady hook-ups in a run-down hotel, but according to one expert, there are three stages of cheating that you should be aware of.
All three stages offer different clues, but after the unfaithfulness (stage 3) is perhaps the most obvious although there are two different types of behaviour often experienced.
Chris Thomas from UK Private Investigators has handled thousands of cheating partner cases and he’s said infidelity follows three clear stages, and once you know what to look for, the signs are easy to spot. Chris even details a ‘before stage’ when the wheels may just be gathering motion – and it’s difficult to hide from once you know what to look out for.
Stage 1 – Before
The first stage is before they cheat, according to the expert, with some tell-tell signs to pay attention too.
Chris says, “Stage 1 is all about the behaviour change. Cheating can take a toll on both partners, but the guilty partner will start to act weird and begin to pick up hobbies or go to places they never would have before.
“New hobbies are a big giveaway when they come out of nowhere, but being in new locations all of a sudden is a larger red flag. Visiting a new artisan bakery or coffee shop on the other end of town when it’s out of character is a good sign of this. It’s not the place, but the weirdness of the place relative to that person.”
Stage 2 – During
Stage two is where they are actively cheating on you, and you will see the largest change in their behaviour, Chris has warned. When you’re in this stage of infidelity, you will notice the guilty partner will start to ‘pick fights with you’.
Chris explained: “If your partner has exhibited signs from stage 1 and they have now begun to pick fights with you, then it’s because this gives them an excuse to get away from you, maybe they go for a walk or go missing for a few hours to clear their head.
“By picking fights with you, it also absolves them from the guilt they would be feeling by cheating, and to them it justifies their actions.”
Stage 3 – After
Stage three is after the event of cheating, and this can be an emotional rollercoaster. Either you’re now getting ‘love bombed’ or being ‘made to feel worthless’.
Chris says: “Cheating is one of the biggest events in a relationship, and it can make people go one of two ways. Either they shower you with attention, gifts and love to try and undo their sins, this is also done in case they get found out, so the act doesn’t seem that bad in the end.
“On the flip side, they can also try to make you feel worthless, because they are angry at you for not being that other person. With the other person, they are in the honeymoon phase, whereas with you, it’s back to a sad, depressing reality. If you find this happening to you, get out of that relationship.”
